Sometimes, I believe my fiancé is annoyed that I’m a dreamer. And I wouldn’t blame her. Many times, I do fit the stereotype of having my head stuck in the clouds. I’m often aloof to what’s going on around me because I’m living in the worlds moving around in my head. Who wouldn’t get annoyed by that?
But overall, she is thankful and wouldn’t have it any other way.
Considering the culture around her, my fiancé is the odd one. Dating a dreamer isn’t typically a preferred option for the greater majority.
People tend to write off dreamers as not being grounded within reality. And for some dreamers, this is true. But for the true dreamers, the ones who understand reality and how to make it fold according to their passion, this is a wrong belief to have.
Fact of the matter is, a true dreamer is the best type of person you could have by your side. If you’re having trouble getting over their negative stereotype, here are three reasons why having a partner who aspires to more in life is the best type of person to date:
1. They see more than what’s in front of them.
Being cynical about life and relationships is easy when life is viewed as a string of routines you simply pass through. To have a negative outlook on life, you have to have a limited scope, one that squeezes out the hope to the beautiful world in front of us.
But dreamers have the superpower of tapping into a larger scope of the world. They can capture hope and let it fuel their romanticism to life. They can grab hold of hope, and use it as a tool to keep the relationship alive and well.
Truth is, dreamers can help you see positive aspects to life, love and the world. They have an aversion to cynicism, which is rare, but so needed in our culture, especially when we approach the topic of love.
Plain and simple, dreamers have hope. When tough times strike, when people are mean to them, and when their partner is hitting a roadblock, they can bring hope, because they see more than grim circumstances. They see the possibility for better times ahead. Date a dreamer and be inspired with hope.
2. They don’t let the impossible limit their actions.
When we see an impossible task, it’s expected to back away into the realm of the possible, and live safely within the lines of our capability. But dreamers see the impossible and reach for it. It makes them more daring.
Oftentimes, this tendency in a dreamer is viewed in a negative light, because when the dreamer reaches, more than likely, he or she will fall back down. They will fail, while the partner waits for them to do something possible.
But here’s the thing: Would you rather have someone who cultivates a culture of risk or a culture of playing it safe? And when I say risk, I don’t mean jumping off buildings. I mean striving for the things that will be of benefit for the greater good.
When their passion for the greater good is strong enough, dreamers will douse their capability with enough reality and fortitude to know when to stop reaching and when to keep going.
But what’s important is that they’ll never let the impossible define their actions. They’ll be willing to risk for you, to go above and beyond what’s possible, rather than be safe with their relationship.
Date a dreamer and have a someone willing to risk and take the next step, all for the sake of a better, more enriching relationship.
3. They want to take you on a journey with them.
To dream is to journey. I know this because dreams cause us to stray from the mainstream path, the highways bustling with people, to take the exits that lead up mountains where you can view spacious overlooks and breathtaking sceneries. Dreamers take the side roads, the more adventurous paths, because to them, it’s more about the journey, not the destination.
When we are blind to anything but the destination, we can stay on the highways that take us straight into the city. But dreamers can stray from those paths and find new, more fun ways of getting where you need to be.
You can choose to take the stuffed up highway, but you possibly wouldn’t get to where you’re going any faster or have a better time than you would if you were with a dreamer.
Date a dreamer and stay away from the boring paths of life. Have fun on the journey.
Dreamers might not have a clear-cut plan, but all the best dreamers have direction. And I promise you, if you choose to date a someone who aspires to the greater good in life, you will have better times chasing a direction than following a plan.
Date a dreamer and have hope, risk, and fun all mixing together to form a better love story.
This article originally appeared on nealsamudre.com