I Didn’t Know That

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I Didn’t Know That
A funny thing happened to us on the way to writing our recently-published book featuring couples with long-term exemplary marriages: we got to be wrong about some of the beliefs that we had regarding the factors that we thought couples needed to experience in order to create great relationships. In other words, we discovered that we had unwittingly taken on some of the cultural myths that many people, including psychotherapists and marriage counselors have bought into regarding relationships.

In speaking with more than 50 couples, which admittedly doesn’t constitute a huge sample, but nonetheless is a pretty significant number, we found a number of consistent themes running through their marriages. That didn’t surprise us, since we expected to see most of these couples doing the “right thing” in their relationships, such as settling differences with skill and respect, being good listeners, speaking to each other without blame and judgment, and frequently expressing gratitude and appreciation towards each other. While we expected to see these qualities and practices liberally embodied in their marriages, there were others that showed up that revealed and challenged some of our own expectations of what great marriages require.

For example: Like many people, we have both believed for many years that in order to create an optimal marriage, it is necessary to make the relationship the highest priority in your life and that both partners need to share this commitment. We believed that if other priorities superceded this one that the marriage could easily get pushed aside and neglected. To our surprise, we found that nearly every person in our book did NOT hold their marriage as their highest priority, but rather viewed it as an essential aspect of their well-being that made it possible for them to more fully honor an intention that was central to their life purpose.

Consequently their relationship served as both an end in itself as well a means towards the fulfillment of that goal. That is, they were together not simply in order to more effectively accomplish something that was a core aspect of their individual or shared life purpose, but because they genuinely enjoyed and took great pleasure in each other’s company and felt personally enriched by their connection. The purpose that their marriage supported often included some form of service or contribution to society. Some also included some form of creative or artistic expression, and sometimes they took the form of fulfilling a promise that they had made to a person, tradition or belief. Some of the couples experienced a shared purpose, while others supported each other in the fulfillment of their individual intentions.

Another one of the surprises that we encountered challenged our belief that people who had experienced growing up in extreme adversity or family dysfunction were severely handicapped when it came to creating a healthy marriage and family for themselves. Quite a few of the people with whom we spoke revealed details about their pasts that were heart-wrenchingly painful to hear, circumstances that involved extreme abuse, neglect or horrific and catastrophic war trauma.

We found that it was not the degree of suffering that each of them experienced in the original situation that determined their future, but rather how they responded to it and whether or not they committed themselves to healing their old wounds that were the biggest factors in their future. While there is no doubt that someone who has grown up in a secure, loving and supportive family gets off to a better start than someone who doesn’t, it’s also clear to us that our early experiences may be less influential in determining our future life trajectory than what we do with the remainder of our lives.

A third and most delightful myth that we got to confront and explode was our belief that all relationships require hard work. As a way of neutralizing the “happily ever after” myth that so many people seem to be so fond of, over the years we have emphasized, perhaps excessively, the hard work required to create and maintain a great relationship. We were delighted to find that some of the couples with whom we spoke did not have the experience of having to do a lot of hard work on their relationship, and one had such a high level of compatibility that they decided to stage a “fight” in front of their two daughters in order to give them a more “realistic” picture of what married couples occasionally have to go through. (Their kids saw through the charade and attributed the act to parental “weirdness”.) Lest you jump to conclusions or get your hopes up unrealistically high, this example is, even in our very selective study, the exception, rather than the rule. We have modified our position on hard work and marriages, but not radically.

Like any other organism or system, a marriage is constantly undergoing both internal as well as external stresses and change. Consequently a certain degree of stress management and ongoing maintenance is necessary in order to keep it humming and growing. What we have discovered in our studies as well as in our own marriage of 38 years is that that “work” over time becomes increasingly effortless and even playful. The couples who do not experience themselves as having to work hard to take care of their marriage are taking very good care of it, but it doesn’t feel like, and in a few rare cases, never has felt like, work. It is, in the truest sense of the phrase, a labor of love.

The bottom line here is that it might be a good idea when you notice yourself feeling certain about something, to check it out closely enough to see whether it is factually true or merely an opinion that “feels” right. Great relationships are generally co-created by people who are willing to be wrong, or at the very least recognize the difference between their opinion and what is factually true. And by the way, that’s not necessarily the truth, it’s my opinion.

If You Need A Hearty Laugh, Just Watch This Video
Everybody loves to laugh.

Comedians, funny movies, and a great joke can send us into hysterics, but the infectiousness of seeing someone else burst out in giggles is where the true magic lies.

What Do You Believe?
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I believe happiness is not an end destination, but instead the ability to see the ordinary through eyes of wonder.

I believe our beauty and our hidden strengths are found within our imperfections.

I believe love takes time and attention, but isn’t supposed to be hard.

I believe happy people don’t take themselves too seriously.

I believe a good partner makes you feel like you’re a rock star whether you really are or not.

I believe money doesn’t buy us happiness, but it sure as hell makes doing good in the world a whole lot easier. (Money isn’t evil.)

I believe a solid relationship helps you feel like you can conquer the world.

I believe judgement ages us faster than time itself.

I believe competition will one day be gone and instead replaced with cooperation.

I believe a good friend/lover is there to catch you when you fall, urge you forward and celebrate your victories.

I believe there will come a day when we no longer see one another’s flaws and instead witness one another’s beauty.

I believe confident people laugh often and forgive easily.

What do you believe?

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How The Cedars-Sinai Art Collection Shines A Healing Light On Patients And Staff Alike

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
How The Cedars-Sinai Art Collection Shines A Healing Light On Patients And Staff Alike
Art is many things: beautiful, controversial, funny, expensive. But no matter what it looks like, art has the power to heal us.

Since the 1970s, the staff at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles has curated a growing art collection that adds some character to the sterile hospital environment. Curator John T. Lange told HuffPost Live he sees the artwork’s powerful effects on patients and staff alike, and it’s become an integral part of Cedars-Sinai.

Check out the clip above to hear more about the Cedars-Sinai art collection, and see the full HuffPost Live conversation about the healing power of art below.

Arianna Huffington and Mika Brzezinski are taking The Third Metric on a three-city tour: NY, DC & LA. Tickets are on sale now at thirdmetric.com.

Introducing The Third Metric
When was the last time you worked through your lunch break? Complained about how stressed you were feeling? Or answered emails on your BlackBerry in bed? At a guess, if you are anything like millions of other HuffPost readers around the world, I reckon “yesterday” would be a pretty common response.

From London to Lisbon, São Paulo to Singapore, people from all walks of life are suffering from burnout as we struggle to cope with a hyper-connected world that values success at any cost.

But, here’s a thought: Maybe it doesn’t need to be like this?

One thing is crystal clear: The centuries-old measures of success — namely money and power — aren’t working any longer. Women and men across the world are waking up to the reality that there are more important things in life than a fancy job title and a bank account full of money. Those are nice to have, sure, but not at the expense of everything else.

Worse still is that in the relentless drive to move up the corporate ladder, burnout and sleep deprivation are no longer just a by-product of the working world. They have become a badge of honour.

With all this in mind, last year HuffPost President and Editor-in-Chief Arianna Huffington coined the phrase “The Third Metric” to redefine what success could and should be all about. A new movement was born that celebrates wellbeing, wisdom, our ability to wonder and how we make a difference in the world.

Think of it this way: If success is a stool with money and power as its two legs, that’s a pretty wobbly foundation. By celebrating a third metric, or leg, of success, that stool suddenly feels a whole lot more solid and appealing to boot.

Since launching The Third Metric, we’ve noticed not just how many people are writing and talking about the struggles and stresses of their busy lives, but also positively about the steps they are taking to deal with it. Words like “mindfulness” are popping up again and again. Yoga and meditation are enjoying popular revivals, and this time it’s not just because pop stars and Hollywood actresses are raving about them (although there are a fair few of them practising the arts, too).

It seems we’re finally waking up to the fact that things need to change. In a hyper-connected world, where we juggle multiple phones and devices at any one time, taking time out from our screens is increasingly important. Learning to “switch off” these days means literally switching off your mobile(s!), your computer, your TV and everything else that needs electricity to function.

From across the globe we’ve gathered stories about businesses harnessing these values to improve their work places, politicians practising mindfulness and bankers being encouraged to — shock, horror! — nap at work. The French might not need any lessons in enjoying long lunches, even during the work week, but the rest of us could certainly do with some encouragement. It’s certainly new in the U.K. to hear about companies offering yoga classes in an effort to keep their employees’ bodies as flexible as their minds.

The way people switch off differs from country to country, and this week, as The Brasil Post joins The Huffington Post group, we’re looking forward to hearing from readers and bloggers about how you define success. We’re also excited to hear how you unplug and recharge. As I type this from HuffPost’s London office, with rain pouring down outside, I’m relying on you to divulge the secret beaches where Wi-Fi hasn’t yet made its mark and meditation before breakfast is the norm.

Come join The Third Metric revolution. We’d love to hear your stories.

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Sometimes I just want to cry

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Sometimes I just want to cry
I don’t cry very often. Usually, I’m really tired and one thing after another piled up until I break down and cry. But, the other day, everything was fine. Really fine. I was out on a walk. The snow fall was lovely. I’d gotten my work done.

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Martina McBride returns with soulful covers record – Record-Searchlight

Martina McBride returns with soulful covers record
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FILE – This June 8, 2013 file photo shows country singer Martina McBride performing at the Rays Summer Concert Series after a baseball game between the Tampa Bay Rays and the Baltimore Orioles in St. Petersburg, Fla. McBride, known for her huge 
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The Yoga Lingo You Need To Know Before Your Next (Or First) Class

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The Yoga Lingo You Need To Know Before Your Next (Or First) Class
Lots of fitness and wellness worlds come with their own complex languages. Here, we teach you the basic vocab you’ll need to communicate (and look cool) during your first yoga class or in any future situation where the yoga-obsessed can be found (dinner parties, work water cooler, etc).

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Man of heart and deep spirituality – Sydney Morning Herald

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Man of heart and deep spirituality – Sydney Morning Herald

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Man of heart and deep spirituality
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He later recognised this as a religious experience, one that eventually set him on the path to the priesthood and to a commitment to what he called a ''spirituality of the heart''. Inspired by the Second Vatican Council, he believed modern theology

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Soulful country: Martina McBride tours in support of her forthcoming album – ABQ Journal

Soulful country: Martina McBride tours in support of her forthcoming album
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Ted Lucas’s stunning soulful folk (1975) – Boing Boing

Ted Lucas's stunning soulful folk (1975)
Boing Boing
This week, I was fortunate to catch a gorgeous acoustic set by Andy Cabic of Vetiver and Eric Johnson of Fruit Bats. They played their own songs, of course, but also some lovely covers of singer/songwriters they both admired and that I had never heard of.

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Super Bowl Halftime Show 2014: Bold Talent Blend Will Lead to Epic Performance
On Sunday, Feb. 2, a unique combination of talent will take the stage during halftime of Super Bowl XLVIII between the Seattle Seahawks and Denver Broncos at MetLife Stadium, which should lead to a brilliant musical break from the big game. Superstar pop …

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7 Steps to Mindfully Manifest Your Goals

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7 Steps to Mindfully Manifest Your Goals
As a mind-body therapist and an international trainer I’ve helped thousands of patients and workshop participants learn how to mindfully access their core creativity and manifest their goals. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help one go beyond their fears and resistances to tap into their inner self.

When you access your core creativity, most anything seems possible. You dream big. You may not see any of the details of how this dream will manifest, but you know what your core self is calling you toward. Allow yourself to spend time being mindfully aware of why that dream means so much to you. When you let yourself believe that the impossible can be made possible, you empower yourself to discover all the opportunities available to you. From there, you can begin honing your vision to make it conform even more closely to what you want for yourself.

Whatever your goals are know that they are impermanent, because change is inevitable. Recognizing that you have the ability to alter your vision or create a new one at any point will give you the confidence to move forward. You must formulate a flexible vision that’s true to your core self as well as realistic and achievable, given that you don’t have control over all the circumstances that will affect how your vision manifests.

Here are seven strategies from my book, Wise Mind, Open Mind to help you successfully manifest your goals.

Step #1: Getting Started — Creating a Realistic Vision
As much as I like to encourage people to dream, and I believe the can-do spirit can carry them a long way, we all must accept certain realities. Creating a realistic goal based on your vision requires learning more about what it typically takes for someone to reach that goal and being honest with yourself about how devoted you are to reaching it. Even a goal that’s as simple as achieving balance in your life requires self-inquiry and self-honesty. You have to explore what would constitute balance for you, what skills you’d need to create that balance, and how you might acquire those skills. Ask yourself, “Do I really have the commitment and resources to follow through, or will I easily give up and slip back into the old ways?”

Step #2: Design, Research and Self-Inquiry Stage
Any plan or vision requires research if you want to make it a reality. We’ve all known people who made a major move too quickly, without thinking through the details, because they were so eager to meet their goals. It’s easier now than ever to gather information, yet with so many facts and opinions available, it can be very difficult to sort through it all without going into information overload. You might choose to check a specific, limited number of resources, for instance, reading three books on a topic you know you need to learn more about, or interviewing five people who’ve successfully made the transition you seek to make. When you recognize the same themes coming up repeatedly, you’ll know you have a handle on the basics and can scale back your research.

Step #3: What Financial and Other Resources Do You Need?
Quite often, my clients begin the process of envisioning their goals by insisting that they need more money. If you feel this way, explore this idea mindfully. What does “more money” represent to you? Is money the resource you most need, or do you have an even greater need for creativity, flexibility, knowledge, courage, passion, or something else? Instead of assuming that money is your golden ticket to a fulfilling life, think about how you can increase the number and range of opportunities available to you. Too often, I’ve seen people direct their efforts into making more money, only to be disillusioned when it doesn’t make them feel any happier.

Step #4: Learning by Example
Learning about how people have overcome obstacles and achieved success can help you identify the elements in their winning formulas, but then you must apply their insights and advice to your own life. By remaining creatively toned and in touch with the passions of your core self, you’ll find it much easier to see the possibilities for using what they’ve learned to construct your own winning formula.

Step #5: Tolerating the Learning Curve
Overall, I believe that most people are lulled into thinking that they have more expertise, more mastery, than they actually possess, because they want to avoid the pain of having to face the unknown and start at the beginning of a learning curve. When we open ourselves up to the possibility that we have to go back to beginner’s mind, we open ourselves up to a personal transformation that may take great effort and be very frustrating, but ultimately turns out to be very rewarding, because it can lead to the most brilliant breakthroughs.

Step #6: Working With a Vision Board or Visual Reminders
Once you know what to do, and what your steps should be, visual reminders may help keep you on track. You might want to work with a vision board you create on your computer with the drawing function in your word-processing program or with specialized visual-thinking software such as Inspiration Software. You might want to work with a dry-erase board, doodling and writing on it, and altering its content at will. It may also help to place visual reminders anyplace where you might stop in the course of your day and meditate for a minute on what this note or symbol means for you.

Step #7: Assessing Your Progress and Assistance from Your Council of Support
Figuring out how long it should take to reach your goals can be difficult and can generate anxiety or worry. When you look at your goals and your checklist for manifesting your vision, you may find that your progress isn’t as steady or as spectacular as you’d hoped. Instead mindfully focus on the progress you’ve made not on how far you have to go. In my book,Wise Mind, Open Mind I have a chapter titled the Council of Support. In moving our vision forward we all hit hidden resistances and hindrances and with a council of support we can seek out expert advice and wise council to assist us in moving our action plan forward to create our vision.

Your journey to manifesting your goals can be one of self discovery and embracing new ideas that can transform your life in ways you never dreamed possible. What are you waiting for? There has never been a better time to take that first step.

10 Thomas Merton Quotes To Celebrate The American Monk’s Birthday
Thomas Merton was a Catholic, a monk, a mystic, briefly a Communist, a civil rights activist and a prolific writer. Born on January 31, 1915, his life was cut short when he died by accidental electrocution while on a visit to Thailand. His work, however, has lived on.

Here is footage of Thomas Merton speaking on the fundamental nature of religiosity in the modern era:

Although the full scope of Merton’s teachings cannot be condensed into sound bites, many of his statements powerfully stand on their own as life wisdom:

Overachieving Never Got Me Thin
Success. Ambition. Drive. In every arena of my life, I’ve embodied these values. Everything I attempted, I accomplished: Ivy League graduate, corporate vice president, six-figure consultant, all the while still managing to attend my kids’ ball games. What possibly could be wrong with this picture?

One look was all it took: I was fat and suffering from a debilitating eating disorder. For some reason, I couldn’t stop eating, and I couldn’t “will” my way to a healthy body weight. I yo-yoed up and down the scale, desperate to conquer obesity and food addiction.

In keeping with my overachieving personality, nobody went to more weight-loss programs, eating-disorder workshops, exercise classes, therapists, doctors, or nutritionists than me. I spent thousands of dollars on counseling, acupuncture, hypnosis, weight-loss operations and liposuction. Each time, I jumped in with both feet, determined that “this time” it would work. I would leap forward, only to slide backwards, feeling angry and defeated that I didn’t follow through. I’m not sure why I sabotaged myself; perhaps it was fear of success or lack of discipline, but on some level, I wasn’t ready enough to transform my life.

Today, that’s over. I live that life I always dreamed about. I have a more sane relationship with food, and I’ve maintained over 135-pound weight loss for eight years. After decades of struggle, it finally dawned on me: all my typical tools for achieving success were actually the wrong tools for losing weight. Paradoxically, I triumphed by turning my “success” tools and orientation inside out. Achieving (and overachieving) never got me thin. Following these five tips did.

Tip #1: Moderation is Not the Key
When I get success in my blood, I want more. I use the previous victory to boost me to my next win. This practice has served me well in my career. Yet, in the food arena, it’s led to obsessive eating. Once I start with one cookie, I become a ravenous hamster on a treadmill and I must have more. I must conquer the whole bag.

Certain foods cause me to obsess and binge, so now, I avoid them entirely. While I was taught “everything in moderation,” for me, there is no such thing as moderation with regard to certain trigger foods. In realizing that these triggers are toxic, I have learned to stay away and avoid the vicious cycle altogether.

Tip #2: Self-Acceptance is Essential
As a driven, single-minded professional, I eliminated any obstacle in my path. I simply identified the barrier and removed it. I thought I could likewise destroy my barriers to healthy eating. But work challenges are not like food issues, which are often deeply rooted in complex emotions and old, ingrained habits.

No matter how hard I tried, my default was to eat, instead of confront these unresolved feelings. Then a coach told me, “Some wounds may never get fixed. You need to accept your scars as part of who you are.” Unlike in business, where all problems usually get addressed, managed and filed, some personal wounds, once accepted as part of life, merely recede and become woven into the tapestry that is each of us.

Tip #3: Acceptance of Others is Essential, Too
As an entrepreneur, anxiety and obsession worked in my favor, spurring me on to stellar results. Yet this same anxious, obsessive quality backfired in my personal relationships. I didn’t know how to slow down and listen to my own desires. I didn’t know how to listen to other people either. I was too busy arguing about being right. I became disappointed when my expectations weren’t met. I would stuff down these incendiary feelings about other people by eating.

Over time, I discovered that not everything was about me. I began to accept myself and others for who we are. I learned that certain people, like certain foods, trigger me in an unhealthy way, and I need to detach from them in order to keep my sanity. Best of all, I stopped eating “over” other people.

Tip #4: The Rebellion is Over
My warrior, rebel spirit served me well in my career. But it also led me to rebel against my parents, society, and diet programs, all of whom seemed to be more invested in my size than I was, leaving me wondering about their intentions. I finally realized that I was only battling myself. I wondered what life would feel like if I had no one to defy? If I wanted to lose weight, I had to do it for me, and me alone. I began to take personal responsibility for what I did, what I felt, and what I put in my mouth.

Tip #5: Help is a Good Thing
The poster in my office reads, “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it!” In business, there was no room for vulnerability. In my food recovery, by asking for help and admitting my weaknesses, I came to see that I didn’t have to go it alone. I needed others to help me put things in perspective, and I embraced a healthier strategy of reaching out. Sometimes even the motivator needs motivating.

I once read, “The path will wait while you take the stone from your shoe.” As an achiever, I had no idea I could do that — slow down, ask for help, take time out, let go of white-knuckling, accept longing and disappointment as natural byproducts of life. Now, as someone with a different body and mindset, I practice my tips and do the opposite of what I did in my career. The outcome is not only greater success in all areas of my life, but a calmer, healthier, and more balanced me.

How Your Friend’s Stress Can Help You Defeat Your Own
A stressful scenario may not seem as daunting if you go through it with someone who’s equally as stressed about it as you are, new research suggests.

For the Social Psychological and Personality Science study, researchers from the University of Southern California, University of Leuven and University of California, Santa Barbara, had pairs of study participants participate in a stressful task together (giving a speech). The emotional similarity of each partner in the pair was measured, as well as the “threat level” each partner perceived the task to have.

Researchers found that the more similar the emotional states of the partners, the greater the reduction in levels of the stress hormone cortisol in response to doing the stressful task. In addition, people who feared public speaking said they felt less stressed when they were emotionally similar to their partner.

The findings apply to real-world situations, such as readying a big presentation for work, researchers said.

“For instance, when you’re putting together an important presentation or working on a high-stakes project, these are situations that can be threatening and you may experience heightened stress,” study researcher Sarah Townsend, an assistant professor of management and organization at the university, said in a statement. “But talking with a colleague who shares your emotional state can help decrease this stress.”

However, there is a wrong way to hash out your stressors and feelings — past research has suggested that co-rumination (the act of excessively discussing your problems, mostly in a negative way) in the context of a friendship can actually increase stress.

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New Year’s Resolution Restart

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
New Year’s Resolution Restart
The first month of this year has been plagued by severe cold weather all over the United States. Between the Polar Vortex and Deep Freeze it may have been hard for you to keep your 2014 New Year’s resolutions. Or perhaps you’re like me and the majority of the participants in a recent Bizrate Insights survey and you “don’t make New Year’s resolutions.” Whatever bucket you fit into here are a few practical approaches that you can put into practice to ensure you are intentional about what you accomplish in 2014.

Choose a Word of the Year
This was a new concept and practice for me in 2013. However, I found a lot of focus and strength from Word of the Year that I established for 2013. My Word of the Year for 2013 was UNLIMITED. Unlimited served as a guidepost for my life throughout 2013. It served as a centering mantra at times when I felt overwhelmed, it encouraged me as I’ve chartered a new journey and more importantly it was a reminder of the goodness, love and blessings that have been bestowed upon my life and that I should share. My Word of the Year for 2014 is BETTER. I’m looking forward to a 2014 that is better than 2013.

There’s a great book entitled, One Word that Will Change Your Life, by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton and Jimmy Page that can help you establish your Word of the Year. Additionally, president and founder of Uplevel You, Christine Kane has a great online discovery tool that can help you identify your word of the year.

Create a Vision Board
A vision board is a board on which you display images that represent whatever you want to be, do or have in your life. It’s a common practice for people to tear pictures from magazines and books that represent the vision for their life they are attempting to manifest. I also like to include words and affirmations on my vision board. In addition to traditional poster boards and bulletin boards you can also digitize your vision board. Because I spend a lot of time on the road I’ve decided to supplement my traditional bulletin board vision board with an electronic vision board on Pinterest this year.

Establish Two Daily Goals
Coach Chester Nichols from the University of Michigan shared this concept with me at the beginning of the New Year when I asked about his New Year’s resolutions. Instead of making new resolutions he said he and his athletes establish two daily goals. I love the practice of two daily goals because it allows me to be intentional and realistic about what I want to accomplish for the day. Additionally, if I keep it up all year long I would have accomplished 730 goals for the year! My Type-A personality likes the sound of that!

If you’ve already thrown in the towel on your New Year’s resolutions or if you didn’t journey down the New Year’s resolution path I would encourage you to try one of these ideas. I firmly believe success begins with intention. Words of the Year, vision boards and daily goals are great foundational tools that we can use to establish our intentions for 2014.

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