Balance — The Key to Health, Wealth and Happiness

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Balance — The Key to Health, Wealth and Happiness
At the Capital Region Women’s Conference in Sacramento, California, the theme of “Health and Wealth” was demonstrated and spoken about in areas such as nutrition, exercise, wealth management, technology, nature and wellness.

After listening to many of the speakers, one overarching theme emerged — balance. In a nation that craves extremes and quick fixes, whether that be losing weight or gaining wealth, only balance will sustain us for the long term. For example, in nutrition it’s enjoying an occasional chocolate cupcake amid a regular diet of healthy, organic fruits and vegetables. In health care, it’s exploring alternative healing remedies alongside traditional Western medicine. In fitness, it’s about finding the exercise you love enough to do every day instead of being a weekend warrior.

Technology and nature — opposite ends of the spectrum — are a great example of how important balance is in our lives. We need doses of both every day to satiate our brains and our bodies. Of course technology, particularly in California, seems to be synonymous with wealth, but money is just another form of energy that needs balancing. Hoarding money might make you richer, but sharing it will enrich your life. By giving money to people and organizations that need it, you keep the cycle of money going, not only in your own life, but also in others.

The importance of balancing our feminine and masculine sides came up for multiple conference speakers. Roy Spence, author of The 10 Essential Hugs of Life and the only male speaker at the conference, spoke about the value of feminine qualities in both the workplace (“Hugs are a handshake from the heart,”) and the home (“Dads need to hug their sons more.”). Lisa Oz, New York Times bestselling author and TV host, asked the audience not to give up their core femininity, but rather to embrace both their male and feminine qualities. Dr. Leslie Hewitt, chiropractor and CEO of WOW (Women of Wellness), encouraged women to reconnect with their inner goddesses. As the author of The Goddess of Happiness, I was delighted someone brought up the importance of the feminine archetype.

I spoke about finding balance through an integrated life. Notice I didn’t say “work-life” balance, which is a term I find meaningless and non-existent. Of course I learned that the hard way. In my 30s, I thought balance was the ability to multitask — work 80 hours a week, host extravagant dinner parties and exercise 45 minutes every day. In her keynote, Lisa Oz said, “Multitasking is not balancing. It distracts and leads to less efficiency.” It wasn’t until I was caught up in a whirlwind of family deaths from suicide, brain tumors and cancer, that I realized I wasn’t living an integrated and balanced life, and that my health and happiness, my relationships, my friends and family and my peace of mind were just as important than making money and much more valuable.

Work and life aren’t separated but rather one integrated journey, and that journey had better include of good balance of passionate and inspirational work, gratitude, self-love, inner awareness, good nutrition, fitness, generosity, service, and yes… a whole lot of fun! If you want to be happy, healthy and wealthy, include all of these in your life — in moderation and in balance.

Paying Attention
As I inch forward along this well-worn road, I know by now that to stay alert, awake and attentive is essential to avoiding the pitfalls of mere wishful thinking and downright deception, whether by oneself or well-meaning others.

One must refocus and rely only on one’s personal connection to infallible guidance from highest source, while politely passing over solutions stemming from frequently “common sense” suggestions offered by programmed and/or traditional minds. More often than not there is such opposition in various viewpoints that it requires much discernment to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Eventually humans may fully evolve to the extent that the left-logical and right-intuitive hemispheres of their brains will harmonize and become a single unit, presenting only thoughts that are fully integrated and aligned with well-being.

Since practice makes perfect… I shall practice, practice, practice!

I am now noticing small, or not so small, synchronicities. To clarify, I shall enumerate them chronologically, more or less:

My daughter, Carol, called me from California a few days ago to tell me that someone she grew up with in this building, Tammy, gave her the name of a real estate broker, Judy, who reputedly knows every apartment on the Upper East Side. (I prefer to remain in my present neighborhood. It feels like home.)

I met Judy yesterday in the lobby of a building a few blocks away to look at possibilities. Previously in the week, I had inquired about rentals from an office I just “happened” to pass. The young man from this agency showed me an apartment suitable in every way except price. The location was next door to a drug chain, across the street from a supermarket and my bank. In front was a crosstown bus stop.

Interestingly, Carol’s father, Arnold, had lived there after our separation. So did Carol, when at 14, she decided that living with mom was much too restrictive of her personal freedom. Later, Carol’s new step-mom-to-be, Linda, joined the household. She still lives in the same premises with her significant other. Not to worry if we should meet, Linda and I are cool. If those walls could talk!

Now it just “happened” that the building Judy showed me was in the same vicinity as the location I have just described, only not quite as pricey. There are presently no vacancies. In May, my projected moving date, something could open up. So where is this path leading? I haven’t a clue.

There are times when I wonder what actions I should be taking. The spiritual leader and founder of the “Sedona Method,” Lester Levenson, recommended use of “the butt system” when faced with seeming difficulties.

I sometimes sit and watch old movies. Often they contain encouraging dialogue, such as when in Alice Adams, the family is in dire need, her father counsels that something always comes along — and it does!

Frequently when I listen to music the old Ellington standard “Do Nothing ‘Til You Hear From Me” is played, I interpret this as a sign from divine guidance to take the message literally.

It’s a gorgeous early spring day. A walk in the park, observing Mother Nature decked out in her new finery reminds me that it’s time to put away the heavy winter gear and don something lighter. This can carry over to maintaining sunny thoughts.

How can I have weighty matters on my mind on such a light airy April day? I shall don some spring finery, park my butt on a bench in the park and do nothing ’til I hear from source.

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Postcards From Lebanon: Part 8 in a Series of Cancer-Related Commentary

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 8 in a Series of Cancer-Related Commentary
Where the streets have no name… (U2)

I thought I’d take this opportunity, as my body ejects the cancer cells and recovers for the next round of chemotherapy, to discuss how different people have reacted to being told I have cancer. Like responses to chemo, everyone’s experiences are different. Of course, these are my experiences; but I believe they contain universal truths.

Spouse/Partner/Significant Other:

If you are in a relationship with a caregiver then they will continue in that capacity for the duration — you are in good, loving hands. If you are not in a relationship with a caregiver you need to understand that the person you fell in love with may not change into someone who can nurse you back to health. It doesn’t mean they love you less, it’s simply who they are. It may be difficult to understand, but the person you chose to share your life with is the same person — you are the one who has had a change of circumstance. Let them be themselves; continue to love them for who they are; don’t try to make them into someone they are not; and you will both be happier for it.

Children:

I don’t have any biological children, so I don’t have any familiarity for this area. I’ll defer to others to comment on their experiences in the comment section below. What I will say is that having been a child I know that the love for a parent is strong — never forget children love you, unconditionally.

Parents:

I had an interesting relationship with my mother prior to notifying her that I had cancer (my father passed many years ago). I’d call her and she’d talk about herself, never once asking about me. It was when she was in her late 80s that I told her I had leukemia; then she never talked about herself until I asked, and only briefly — she wanted to know everything I had done since we last spoke. It completely changed the dynamic of our relationship in that she became both a friend and a nurse to my patient. This change made our times together before her passing that much more rewarding; and, while I may not like to, I have my leukemia to thank — a silver lining.

Siblings:

We grow up together and then we part, some farther than others. What I would suggest we all remember is that our siblings have their own lives and families; and the distance in multiple factors (age, miles, etc.) impacts the manner in which they respond. Some will be selfless, while others will resort to still being a sibling within the hierarchy of the family. If you can understand this then you can handle how they will behave, from denial (since they don’t want to think they may also get cancer due to any hereditary factors) to taking over (usually an older sibling, which can be a blessing and a pain). But let them live their lives as they, too, need to live with your cancer in the best way they know how.

Friends:

Cancer is the ultimate decider of who your true friends, or angels, are. In our lives we are lucky if we have a few best friends who, when the cancer chips are down, are there without having been asked. We think we know who these people are, but the wonderful thing about having cancer (I know, somewhat of an oxymoron) is the joyous surprises of love your friends will shower on you in both big and little ways. It’s as if a ray of sunshine pierces your heart each time an offer, a mention, a meal, a smile, a call, an email comes your way. The simple act of asking, “How are you?” is a radiant sunrise given so effortlessly, yet promising so much.

I would ask that you also forgive those friends who seem to disappear. I had two such friends who, once I told them I had leukemia, never called me again; and this after I had been there for them during their recovery from being run over by a car and a divorce. But I can’t blame them, for I was the one who chose to be there for them during their time of need. We each deal with adversity in our own way, and this is how they chose to deal, or, as the case may be, not to deal, with my misfortune. Be prepared for this and you will be a stronger person in the end. And don’t be afraid of letting these people go no matter how much you may think you love them or have invested in them, for if they truly love you they will come back. (I know, sounds like releasing that butterfly slogan. Be prepared for them not to come back.)

Acquaintances:

People who we meet and interact with on a limited basis may surprise you upon finding out you have cancer. There are people you won’t know well who have a need to be helpful — let them. There are people who are good friends of your friends who will rally around you in support of that friend — embrace them. There are people who will observe silently from the sidelines — help them. There are people who make offers with all good intentions but no follow through — forgive them.

And then there are people from your past (near or distant) who may reach out offering encouragement, providing a moment of uplifting pleasure from their simple act of having contacted you — be ever thankful.

Bosses:

They don’t want to know anything; and if they know something, the less they know the better — for the company. You need to bear in mind that it is the company for which you work. If you receive health care from your company, all the more reason for the company to not want to know about your health. But tell your boss as soon as you know you have cancer; give them as much information as you have because you will need them, the company’s health insurance, when the time comes.

My bosses, for the most part, were supportive in our discussions; but they would never broach the subject with me — I had to initiate any conversations either verbally or in writing. What you need to realize is that they are doing their job, as you should be doing your job. It may seem cold and harsh, but it is the reality of the workplace today — do not hold it against them.

Co-workers:

And yet here you’ll find people who care and don’t have an issue by asking you, from time to time, how you’re doing once they hear you have cancer. People you pass in the hall will display concern for your wellbeing — totally unsolicited — as they, too may have experienced cancer in one form or another during their lives. These are the same individuals you may have worked with for years or only briefly who suddenly take a keen interest in you — hold close those that do.

Strangers:

During the cancer journey you will come across many new faces. Some will become your angels and friends for life, while others will be looking to you for direction and information, and still others may dismiss you as being condescending. Don’t ignore the strangers you encounter as they are looking to learn, seeking how to be brave, wanting to know more without acknowledging it. For, yes, we all want to have the knowledge, to be empowered — they simply may not know it yet. Please note that those who may condescend have their own issues they are trying to cope with — let them be.

Oneself:

How you react to being told you have cancer, and how you deal with it on an ongoing basis, is as individualized as snowflakes. My advice is to not blame anyone, especially oneself — it isn’t productive. You might begin by reviewing the many self-help books and guides, as well as alternative routes to take. Learn as much as you can about your individual cancer, and then begin the process of educating yourself on how best to continue with your life with cancer. This takes many forms, from the food we eat, to where we live, to whom we have around us, to options for healing with herbs and meditation as well as the medicines you will be prescribed. No one told me I couldn’t try something if it had even the remotest chance of it making me feel better. But do ask your health care provider first as some things have been clinically proven to be harmful to the type of cancer you may have, and they will know.

If your cancer was brought about due to negligence or work related practices, it is understandable that you will be upset with the responsible party. I ask that you remember that anger does not make you healthier — it actually serves to make you worse. First and foremost — be good to yourself.

As for me, I still feel disoriented and confused from time to time, along with short-term memory loss where I can’t remember names and details combined with an inability to concentrate or focus for long periods — what I call chemo brain; fatigue is a constant, while my fingers tingling has lessened. During this entire cycle I have had nasal congestion and cough which appear to be lessening. And the other side-effects I experience dissipate as I get closer to the next round of chemotherapy — at least they have so far.

Timing: Oct. 7 through Oct. 12, Cycle Three (3) of chemotherapy.

Where the streets have no name…

Postcards From Lebanon: Part 1
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 2
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 3
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 4
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 5
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 6
Postcards From Lebanon: Part 7

A Life Permanently Changed
I’m going to talk about terror  –  about truly coming face to face with what you fear most in life.

As a young child I used to have a reoccurring dream that my neighborhood burned down and took everyone and everything with it.

Fast forward to New Year’s Eve 1986. I was 21 and living in Washington, D.C. My boyfriend at the time had invited me down to Richmond, Virginia, for a New Year’s Eve party. We were driving there with another couple, and then staying overnight and returning on New Year’s Day.

Like any 21 year old who was smitten with her boyfriend, I couldn’t wait for my first overnight trip with him.

As I was getting prepared for the trip, I was listening (and dancing) to Earth Wind & Fire when there was a news interruption on the radio about a hotel fire erupting in Puerto Rico. My heart skipped a beat — my parents were vacationing in San Juan for the holiday week.

I called my brother and learned that my parents were not staying at that particular hotel. In fact, they were staying on a different side of the island. Phew. Instant relief. I went about curling my hair, trying on a dozen different outfits until I found the right one and putting the finishing touches on my makeup.

Finally at 8 p.m., we began our 90-minute journey to the party.

Once in Richmond, we attended the bash until well past midnight and then headed to the Hampton Inn.

When we turned on the TV at the hotel, CNN was the first channel that popped up. Splashed on the screen were horrifying images of the hotel fire that I had heard about earlier in the day. By now they were starting to count the number of dead and interview some of survivors. The Dupont Plaza Hotel fire had been set at 5 p.m. ET by a disgruntled employee and within minutes, spread from the casino to many floors of the building. Images flashed showing terrified victims jumping from windows, ambulance sirens shrieking in the background and smoke billowing from every opening in the building.

Deep breath, Susan. Your parents were nowhere near the hotel. My boyfriend suggested — actually demanded — that I turn off the TV and go to sleep and we’d find out all was okay the next morning. But the TV was like Pandora’s box for me. How could I shut it off? Thankfully he won the argument, as what I would have seen had it stayed on would have probably caused me to go into shock.

My father was next up to be interviewed on the news.

The next morning, I woke up at 8 a.m., startled  –  an early hour for anyone on New Year’s Day. It was sleeting, which only added to the dreary feeling engulfing all four of us. We started our trek home, slowly, because of the weather. Legend says that Virginians don’t drive well in freezing rain and snow.

When we stopped for gas, I decided to call the apartment I was staying in to see if anyone had called for me. Reaching into my jeans pocket, I fished out several dimes and dialed. My roommate answered the call before I could even blubber out a whisper of “good morning” and almost shouted: “Where are you and how far are you from D.C.?”

He told me that my brother and cousin had each called before 9 a.m. A wretched feeling came over my body, and I felt as if I might throw up. I asked for more info, but he didn’t share — all he said was hurry back. My head hung low as I wandered in a blur back to car.

As we headed north, I stared outside counting the icicles drop from the sky as they smacked the sides of the car. Washington’s all-news radio religiously repeated the headlines every seven minutes with the increasing numbers of the victims. First 35, then 45, then 60 and up. The drive seemed to go on for an eternity, and remember, these were the days without Internet, smartphones, or even in many cases, answering machines. There was literally no way to get updates.

Finally, four hours after leaving Richmond, we pulled into my aunt’s driveway in Rock Creek Park in Washington, D.C. Standing at the door were my cousin Anna and my Aunt Arlene. I began my dizzying walk up the long staircase. When they opened the door, I knew that the worst moment of my young life had occurred. My beloved mom was missing and not expected to be found. I fell into their arms.

Ninety-six people perished on that fateful day and left 96 families and loved ones in utter despair. I came face to face with the nightmare that had plagued me as a young child. The fire had won this time. My life would be irrevocably changed forever. There was no turning back.

Almost 30 years later, there are few days that go by that I don’t think of her and the senseless and tragic loss of her life. What I do carry with me is a strange and rather bizarre gift  –  a gift of having experienced one of life’s worst tragedies. I confronted terror head-on. It was challenging and harrowing — the hardest time of my life. But ultimately, I survived. I endured. And I know that no matter what life throws my way, I will eventually be okay.

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How Do We Define Success For Kids?

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
How Do We Define Success For Kids?
In an achievement-oriented culture — where mounting academic and college admissions pressures are beginning earlier in life than ever — raising balanced, resilient children can be a challenge.

George Estrada, Vice President of Technology at the Center for American Progress, told HuffPost Live’s Nancy Redd that children are feeling the pressures of achievement earlier and earlier.

“Our culture is this hyper success-driven idea that you have to be successful all the time,” he said. “There’s a medal for everything, there’s a trophy for everything, so the minute you don’t get it, you feel you’ve failed.”

But getting children aligned with a philosophy of looking inward, upward and onward — one that is preached to adults — can be tricky, according to Renee Jain, an expert on childhood resilience and happiness.

“You talk about The Third Metric and aiming to redefine success going beyond money and power, but what’s the equivalent of money and power for kids? So how do we define success for kids?” Jain asked.

Jain explored the answer to those questions in a blog post published here on HuffPost. “Let’s teach our children that goals aren’t intangible, floating ideals. Let’s teach them that it doesn’t always matter where the starting line is. What matters more is a commitment to work hard, to accept failure as an opportunity to learn and a re-commitment to work harder,” she wrote.

Catch the full conversation on Third Metric parenting at HuffPost Live HERE.

WATCH: Just Say ‘Yes!’
Perhaps you’ve seen the Jim Carrey movie Yes Man. Yes? It’s about a guy who chronically says “no” to everything. A motivational speaker challenges him to start saying “yes!” to life, and the hilarity ensues. While I’m not necessarily encouraging you to go to the same lengths, is it perhaps possible that there are more good experiences out there that you could say “yes” to? I hope this video will help.

If you are new to tapping, it will be beneficial to also watch the first episode in the “Tap Out Your Fears” series — which explains the basics of EFT — click here.

As with any of my tapping videos, this is an abbreviated process for releasing uncomfortable feelings and enhancing good ones. Some folks may find their fear dissolve after just one tapping session, but for others, it will take some repetition, bringing the discomfort down little by little each time. (Still others may uncover specific issues that are best addressed directly with a wellness practitioner.) In any event, this brief video should help at least take the edge off the discomfort, freeing you up to enjoy life much more. Let us know how it helped you!

For a picture of the tapping points — and more info on EFT — click here.

Tapping can sometimes bring up long-buried emotions, which is why I state that, before tapping along, folks must take full responsibility for their own well-being. For more information about that, please read this disclaimer.

Until next time, feel free to tap along with any of the many videos I have on YouTube or the many recordings I have at TapToFeelGood.com.

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A City of Mash-Ups
The ultimate mash-up…

Primal, powerful and awe-inspiring…

Alluring, capable of overpowering the senses, driving people wild, beyond control…

Eliciting love and hate, hugs and violence…

No doubt one of the largest viral audiences ever….

What could it be, you ask?

What combination of music, sounds and artists could produce such emotion?

Listen:

“The voice of the muezzin calling the Moslem faithful to prayer; the toll of the Church bells; the chant of Jews praying at the Western Wall…”

And there is only one place in the world where this intoxicating, heady, elating mash-up can be heard… and seen… Jerusalem… as Amos Elon so beautifully portrays in the quote above from his book Jerusalem: City of Mirrors.

Imagine the clean cold chill of a mountain early morning; the dark clear sky ablaze with the lights of the night as the colors begin to change, black to purple, purple to gold as the glow of the sun begins to overpower all and the chill gives way to heat. Now close your eyes and listen — the sounds of Jerusalem — the holy mash-up welcomes the day… in all its new glory.

If I sound slightly infatuated, passionate even maybe a bit crazy and mad — it’s because I am, I was — I stood and listened and watched and experienced the full power and glory of that frenetic mash-up; a sound I can never get enough of when I visit Jerusalem.

And yet, there are some, many perhaps, who would deny that sound — undo the mash-up, limit it to one or another of its parts, unravel the complexity of its beauty, destroy the multi-dimensions, deny the textures that make this mash-up unique.

Let me be clear and honest — I don’t mean for this to be a political or religious diatribe — far from it — I am more interested in the power of this crazy mash-up to drive social long before Facebook, to inspire community long before LinkedIn, to drive connected interactive experiences long before digital anything.

And I am fascinated by what it can inspire today through digital channels of communication, connection and interaction. And yet somehow we seem to be missing the beat.

So as I stood there entranced I asked myself, why is it that the promise of all that we have at our fingertips to connect the world divides us more than ever?

Why is it that we create silos as quickly as we break them down — erase one and seemingly hundreds spring up — against the very premise that digital portends.

Bottom line — the mash-up of all mash-ups — an ultimate source for digital content, social connection, and by the way news — is sadly divisively isolated into its constituent parts.

As I leave Jerusalem — I can only wonder, and I can only hope…

“Pray for the Peace of Jerusalem?”

How about, instead, we tweet, link, share, post, ping and otherwise use the huge power that each of us has in our hands today to use Jerusalem as a metaphor for what digital can do to change the world.

People who value open systems believe that is just the point — value comes not from owning but from sharing. Not from passion for what is mine but from passion for sharing. From understanding that access is the new ownership — it’s not what I hoard, it’s what I can use when I want.

Let’s share this nutty mixed-up mash-up; let’s all own it — because we can, maybe we have to…

Listen:

“Jerusalem is a festival and a lamentation. Its song is a sigh across the ages, a delicate, robust, mournful psalm at the great junction of spiritual cultures.” David K. Shipler

Listen and watch:

And listen and watch again:

The power of digital has never had a better place to start…

What do you think?

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Roadmap for the Work Week

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Roadmap for the Work Week
It is so easy to refer to our weeks as either “good” or “bad,” but every week is a journey, filled with highs and lows, opportunities to be happy and in control, and excuses to feel stressed or misunderstood. Just as words can be “heavy” or “light,” so too can your week’s journey! Thinking of each day as a leg of the journey could help in lightening your emotional diet and creating the ideal week in which the “to dos” of life become rewarding and manageable.

Maybe you’ve got a Manic Monday this week… why not make it a Mighty Monday? Could your Warring Wednesday become a Winning Wednesday? The list goes on: make your Tuesday Tranquil, your Thursday Thoughtful. Let Fridays be fit and fun, and certainly find a way to be Smiling on Saturday. No matter what kind of week you’re having, compartmentalizing each day and giving yourself the opportunity to positively change each “leg” is possible. Like a good wine and cheese, each day of the week can be paired with a complementary exercise (either mental or physical) that can transform and better it. Let’s break it down.

Sunday: It’s Sunday night. Maybe you’ve laid out your clothes, packed lunch for the next day, sent the last email of the night and settled into bed for a bit of shut-eye. So why can’t you sleep?! If you’re like many people, Sunday is the hardest night of the week to fall asleep. Stressing out on Sunday night sets you up for a major work week traffic jam. Who wants to start Monday off groggy and unfocused?!

There are active choices you can make to turn a Sleepless Sunday into a wonderfully Sleep-filled Sunday. A great choice to make is to pair Sunday with some quality to-do list time. Physically write down your list — the major events, the things that need to get done and the things you want to get done. Accept your goals but also accept the possibility that everything might not get completed.

Try to make sure that there’s a good balance between the things you do and things that are good for you on your list: that’s a recipe for success. Your list can be your mental exercise, but for those of you looking for more physical engagement on Sunday, consider a vinyasa flow class. This form of yoga gets your heart pumping but also values restorative poses and relaxation — a great combo for a Sunday! Now that you’ve mentally prepared for the week it’s time to put it away and get some sleep.

Monday:
Now that Monday has arrived, your to-do list is live and running — the week’s journey has begun. Monday can be manic for a variety of reasons: maybe your list now seems daunting, maybe your boss added three new things to that list, maybe your sister needs you to watch the kids… that’s fine! Take the opportunity to turn a Manic Monday into a Mighty one. Feel empowered by the fact that so many people find you capable and responsible.

On Monday morning you’ll find out if your journey is set or if you have to make a small detour or two. Remember, there’s a whole week ahead to accomplish your tasks. Pair Monday with a walk outside. The combination of exercise and fresh air (preferably during a mid-afternoon break from work) will rejuvenate your mind and body. Even 15 minutes can refresh your senses and ready you for the rest of the day. When you return to your desk, you’ll likely have prioritized certain tasks for the rest of your day, and before you know it, they’re complete! From Manic to Mighty? It’s a walk in the park!

Tuesday:
By Tuesday, your week is really taking shape. Many people I know see Tuesday as a slower day both mentally and physically, and as a result, tensions can run high. Make the choice to avoid a Testy Tuesday — let it be Tranquil. On Monday, you made the necessary adjustments for your week’s journey and on Tuesday, you’ve got to put them into action! Tuesday can test your ability to stay on track. Knowing that Tuesday can be a bump in the road, wake up preparing to try your best. And sometimes you need a little help to get a kickstart! Tuesday is a perfect day to challenge your body and mind with an intense cardio or bootcamp type of class. The high-intensity of these kinds of classes will allow you to combat and then release stress and ready you for the rest of your week. With so many varieties — kickboxing, interval training, dance-based classes, even a challenging run — you can choose what’s right for you. Use exercise on Tuesday to bring energy into the week, into your body and into your mind.

Wednesday:
At halfway to the weekend, you’re over the hump! By this day, you should be truly enjoying the week’s journey. Hopefully your Monday was Mighty and your Tuesday was Tranquil, but if not, choose to make Wednesday Winning. There may be things left to do, but you’ve accomplished a lot so far this week! With half of your journey left, it’s important to keep your energy up. Choosing the right foods throughout the day can provide you with lasting energy and focus. First off, don’t skip breakfast! Depriving yourself of needed energy before a long day is like intentionally flattening one of your tires before taking a road trip. Combine a complex carbohydrate with protein and a good fat for a filling, nutritious start to your day — try stirring a tablespoon of peanut butter into your morning oatmeal.

Secondly, allow yourself snack breaks! You might be surprised that eating an apple at 10:30 a.m. or some cheese and crackers around 3:00 p.m. can make your just as (or even more!) alert as a cup of coffee can. And if you can manage all that, and even if you can’t, try to couple Wednesday with “friend time” — get together with your pals for a little mid-week decompression and fun. It might energize you even more than that 3 o’clock snack!

Thursday:
By Thursday, the week is winding down, and you might be, too. Thursday is like Sunday in terms of the need for some mental preparation. Return to your list, untangle anything left undone, and prepare for your final day before the weekend. Thursday’s goal should be getting grounded and centered, using the Tranquil sensations and Winning attitude built by Tuesday and Wednesday. Thoughtful Thursday allows you to reassess the week. What have you gotten done? Maybe it’s more than what you expected! Maybe it’s less. And either direction is okay. To achieve a Thoughtful Thursday instead of a Thankless one, pair the day with a mini-meditation. That’s right, you don’t need to make time for a full yoga class in order to reap the benefits of meditation. You can do breathing exercises at your desk.

Close your eyes, take 10 to 15 deep, even breaths and think about just one thing. While clearing your mind completely is best, a singular focus can have just as rewarding an effect. When you bring your attention back to your surroundings and eventually back to work, remember this mindful state. You are in charge. This mini-meditation is your most useful tool for a Thoughtful Thursday. This mindfulness and focus will lead you to victory!

Like on Sunday, a mental exercise may not be enough to get you back on track. If you’re feeling this way, add something new to this week’s routine! Maybe so far you’ve done yoga, taken a walk, and gotten your heart pumping in a cardio class. Pair Thursday with a Pilates or barre-method class. These classes are all about specificity and targeting certain parts of your body for long, lean muscles, so they will complement the mindfulness and focus you’ve channeled with your mini-meditation!

Friday:
What a week it’s been! By the end of the week, there’s a lot to be thankful for — they don’t say T.G.I.F. for nothing! In the same way that you allotted time for a walk, a yoga class, a nice meal and a mini-meditation, take time on Friday to say thank you. Maybe you’re thankful for the coworker who volunteered to help you out on a project. Or maybe you’re thankful for your roommate who took on the grocery shopping this week. You might even be thankful that it didn’t rain on the day you forgot your umbrella. The point is, take a little time to truly appreciate what you can. So often we forget to say thank you for the less obvious moments in our lives, but your journey can be much sweeter if you’re in tune with everything that deserves a little bit of gratitude. Friday’s pairing is a free-for-all! Choose what kind of positive intention you want to put into this day. Is your Friday Fit, Fancy, Fun? Be it a new fitness class, a glamorous evening out or a concert at night, reward yourself on Friday for a job well done this week.

Saturday:
While not necessarily a “reward,” do something for yourself on this day. If you’ve taken each opportunity this week to transform your days, there’s no reason your Saturday shouldn’t be Smiling. Think of Saturday as your journey’s destination. You’ve earned this day, and you are in control of how you spend it. The one thing you shouldn’t do on your Saturday is to make it Stressful! Pair this restful weekend day with something that makes you Smile. Have that Froyo you’ve been craving, see a movie everyone’s been talking about, go get a great workout — you made it! Saturday is a day to tie up any loose ends on your list, but it’s also a day to relax.

And before you know it, Sunday night comes back around. It’s time to pack your bag and make your list, preparing for the week ahead. Even if you follow a routine, no two Mondays are ever the same. There’s a lot in this world that we can’t control, but what we can control are our choices. Make positive choices: choose a mini-meditation, choose to say thank you, choose to eat well. These daily tools are meant to help along your week’s journey. Any good roadmap has structure and suggestions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t choose to detour, and it doesn’t mean you won’t hit a roadblock. What’s important is to accept each day for what it is and to be present in it — don’t fixate on yesterday or stress about tomorrow. Choose to be the best you can be in the moment.

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Thinking Outside the (Skull) Box – Part 7

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Thinking Outside the (Skull) Box – Part 7

By Deepak Chopra, M.D., FACP, Menas C. Kafatos, Ph.D., Fletcher Jones Endowed Professor in Computational Physics, Chapman University, P. Murali Doraiswamy, MBBS, FRCP, Professor of Psychiatry, Duke University Medical Center, Durham, North Carolina, Rudolph E. Tanzi, Ph.D., Joseph P. and Rose F. Kennedy Professor of Neurology at Harvard University, and Director of the Genetics and Aging Research Unit at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH), Neil Theise, MD, Professor, Pathology and Medicine, (Division of Digestive Diseases) Beth Israel Medical Center — Mount Sinai School of Medicine, New York

 

In our prior post we reconstructed the concept of “you”, which we all typically, think of as bounded by the skin and the body it encloses.  But a hallmark of 21st-century science is to tear down boundaries.  A limitless universe that springs from the quantum vacuum, (along with possibly multiple universes) is the setting for an unbounded “you” – a self that merges with creation. The bond that unites you with the universe isn’t simply physical, although every atom in your body comes from stardust, much of it the residue of exploding supernovas in intergalactic space.  Far more importantly, “you” are a mental construct, and therefore the bond that weaves your life into cosmic life is invisible.

We’ve argued that human intelligence most plausibly arose from an intelligent universe. As the great physicist Erwin Schrödinger declared, “To divide or multiply consciousness is something meaningless.” In other words, consciousness is one. It only appears to be divided up into billions of human minds, and likely into uncountable forms of consciousness in other species. In the same way, you might see an aqua sweater as blue while I see it as green, but “color” itself is a single thing; two people can’t have their own separate definition of it. There’s a telling metaphor in the Vedic tradition: When the sun shines on a perfectly still sea, there is one sun reflecting back. But when the sea is rippled and moving, there are millions of tiny suns shining back. This appearance doesn’t mean that the sun isn’t one. This insight comes very close to an ancient passage from one of the central texts in Indian spirituality, the Yoga Vasistha: “Cosmic consciousness alone exists, now and ever. In it there are no worlds, no created beings. That consciousness reflected in itself appears to be creation.”  In short, either consciousness is unbounded or you haven’t looked deep enough.

The reason that Schrödinger felt competent to talk about unbounded consciousness was that physics had finally reached deep enough, to the most fundamental level of nature. In the quantum realm we know for certain that notions of “boundaries” evaporate: the wave functions that describe the locations and boundaries of “particles” extend in all directions to the borders of the universe itself.  Eventually the dissolution of boundaries became total. Einstein, who was a conservative in these matters compared to some of the other quantum pioneers, wrote a condolence letter to a friend who had just lost her husband. It contained the following famous passage: “Now he has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.”

Quantum physics forced us to re-conceive ourselves as creatures who appear to be physical and bounded by time, even though our substance isn’t material and has no boundaries in time. Down further in scale, re-conceiving who we are becomes an ever greater imperative: gluons, quarks, neutrinos, mesons, bosons (including the Higgs boson, the so-called “God particle”) all intimately overlap. The universe – and you – continually bubbles up from these shadowy subatomic entities, each sensing, reflecting, and interacting in a seamless whole. In the nanoseconds when these elusive entities escape their invisible domain, science touches on the same picture painted by the Yoga Vasistha, of a creation born of unseen activity beyond the reach of inner thought and probably beyond the reach of imagination as well. What’s left is mathematics clinging to the edge of the cliff with clutched fingers, hoping not to fall.  But mathematics isn’t reality, while consciousness is.

All of us, including scientists, protect our boundaries, finding it hard to join unbounded reality. But if consciousness is real, we don’t have to leap into an alien realm to reach the foundation of creation – it is inside ourselves. The limits of physicality have been reached. This is an area on which there is scientific consensus, thanks to quantum theory: There is a smallest level of scale beneath which one can go no further, at least in this “real” universe of four-dimensional spacetime, known as the Planck scale: 10-35 meters (-1 followed by 35 zeros).  Besides defining where physicality ends, the Planck scale also marks the end point of the environment that encloses material things, such as time, space, and the laws of nature. We don’t know for sure what the smallest entities are like.  (The five senses don’t help at such an inconceivable scale.) Some think they are the “multidimensional strings” of string theory, but there are other theories as well each sorely lacking in evidence but backed up by various intricate and beautiful mathematical formulations – indeed, the real problem is that there are too many mathematical possibilities that all seem equally valid – or invalid.

Whatever the smallest “stuff” is, it cannot be subdivided into smaller bits and pieces with known locations in time and space.  Instead, the universe emerges from the energetic void that is the foundational nature of creation. But even “void” is a tricky term, since the pre-creation state isn’t empty, a pure, empty, vacuum. There are huge amounts of energy linked to vast numbers of virtual particles that potentially manifest an observable reality. Emptiness is spontaneously and continuously giving rise to these tiniest entities, coming and going in a “quantum foam.”  Thus, from the smallest level of scale, the universe is not a place, an empty box in which we reside.  Creation is a process that brings existence out of non-existence. You are that process. You are seamlessly woven into a reality that is complete, whole, and perfect just as it is.  Surprisingly to some but not to all, the subjective experiences found in the Yoga Vasistha and many other ancient texts emphasize the unity of experience. These texts, as it turns out, precisely reflect our objective scientific understanding of how the universe arises.

The usual terms attached to ancient texts (e.g., spiritual, religious, wise, intuitive, enlightened) send up red flags to scientists and their ingrained distrust of subjectivity. So let’s resort to a neutral term that links subject and object: observation. In a reality where artificial boundaries have collapsed, the “in here” of subjectivity is no longer walled off from the “out there” of objectivity.  The seamless flow of creation expresses itself in both. An observer-based science can be founded on meditation or the Hubble telescope. In a dualistic framework these are opposite poles.  But they come together in an unbounded framework.  For a century quantum physics has wrestled with the so-called observer effect as it impinges on isolated waves and particles. It was mind-blowing enough to believe that the process of observation turned waves into particles.  But the logical extension is mind-expanding: Everything in the universe depends on the linkage between observer, observed, and the act of observation.

If it is willing to adopt a touch of humility, science will see that ancient contemplative traditions arrived at conclusions that were not duplicated until “objective” methods acquired incredibly advanced, precise tools. The Higgs boson required billions of dollars in machinery, and countless hours of theorizing, in order to pry out a new piece of knowledge about how subatomic particles emerge from the void.  The ancient wisdom traditions began with the big picture instead, and their descriptions of the big picture still outstrip ours. The ancient explorers of consciousness understood the nature of the void, encountered not through mathematical calculation but through direct experience. The void revealed itself to be none other than mind, usually written as Mind to signify that it lies beyond our small, personal minds.

Getting contemporary physics to begin with the observer meets a great deal of resistance, but an observer-based science has one great advantage: There is no other way to get where we want to go.  Once physicality ends at the Planck scale, something must hold the universe together, and this something can’t be in time or space, nor can it be made of physical “stuff.”  We won’t leap to the obvious conclusion: this something sounds an awful lot like God. The word “God” can conjure many different reactions based on different traditions and history. To use a value-neutral word, what this something actually sounds like is reality itself. The skeptics have their chance for rebuttal. If anyone can define reality in non-physical, non-linear terms, freed from all boundaries and yet capable of erecting the incredibly organized cosmos, it’s difficult to imagine how mind isn’t the answer. Otherwise, a timeless agency that can create time, a causeless entity that gave rise to causation, and a source that has no place but created space itself – such an origins story would be inconceivable to us without it being conscious.

And so we finally come to our conclusion.  Where time, space, matter, energy, gravity, and mathematics reach their limits, there is the source of creation, and the most plausible candidate is consciousness.  Reality is more than existence waiting to be filled with random events. It is existence guided and governed by the qualities of consciousness – intelligence, self-organization, self-awareness, orderliness, evolution, and infinite creativity.  What will it take for anything like consensus on this conclusion? The dominant metaphors of our modern culture are those of science and engineering.  These metaphors prejudice the contemplation of the question, what is the mind?  Materialist ways of thinking posit that the universe is an immense machine that created things like mind and the human brain by randomly tossing the building blocks of atoms and molecules until they happened to land in a pattern instead of scattered across the floor.

In this series of posts we’ve taken you from an automatic acceptance of these dominant, mechanistic metaphors, not to prove that they are wrong but to raise sufficient doubt about their certainty that you can entertain another possibility: Consciousness, or mind, is what the universe arises from and is made of.  Mind isn’t just gurgling out of brain cells like water from a spring. It isn’t merely a side effect of the brain’s electrical and chemical activity, like heat from a bonfire. There isn’t logical substantiation that brain = mind, even though  the majority  of scientists, philosophers, and the public may assume that this is so, since thoughts come out of the brain. Music comes out of a radio, but that doesn’t mean that radio = music.

Radios don’t contain little tiny rock bands or news commentators or symphony orchestras, yet they give rise to rock and roll, commentary, and symphonies. Radios transduce radio waves, which embedded in the infinite electromagnetic field, into specific, understandable auditory signals.  Similarly, the brain can be just as readily conceived of as the transducer of infinite Mind into our specific thoughts. And the brain could just as easily be thought of as transducing the quantum field into everything we perceive: matter, energy, time, space, and all perceived sensations. Could Mind have used evolution to arrive at the brain so that we can live as adaptable, interactive beings in a world that perfectly mirrors our conception of it?

In this view, our brains are mind the way every subatomic wave/particle is also mind. This unity solves the problem of deriving brain from mind or vice versa – they are two aspects of the activity of consciousness. The seemingly intractable issues that science faces today, particularly the challenge of consciousness, may actually have a simple answer, as we propose here. There’s no surprise, then, that an fMRI scan can pick up very specific brain activity that corresponds with a person’s emotions, mood, desires, and other aspects of mind. The match is seamless and perfect, as it has to be.  Radios don’t get to eliminate the violins from a Mozart symphony; there has to be electrical activity for every aspect of the music. This is where the radio metaphor gets difficult: Can you imagine a functional radio that is itself constructed of radio waves?  In a very real sense, a radio, along with the entire universe, is derived from invisible wave functions. So ascribing mind to neurons merely begs the question. No “thing” can give rise to mind. Hard as it may be to accept, “things” were metaphors all along.

As easy as it is to think that the brain in its skull casing is all that is necessary to produce mind, it’s just as easy, if you permit yourself, to think of Mind as the fundamental nature of everything that exists. By definition, reality lies beyond metaphors.  We’ve tried to convince you that the conventional set of metaphors must be discarded if you want to know reality, which means knowing yourself. Rather than discarding science, we are expanding it. We ask you to contemplate: What is the most scientific approach?  One that excludes some topics as “inappropriate for study”?  Or one that encourages even-handed investigation of all the evidence and phenomena at hand?   This is where “thinking outside the box” pays its greatest dividends, by expanding the capacity to be human and along the way to solve the unending mystery that is “you.”

 

Deepak Chopra, MD is the author of more than 75 books translated into over 35 languages with over twenty New York Times bestsellers.  Chopra serves as Founder of The Chopra Foundation.

Menas Kafatos, Ph.D., Fletcher Jones Endowed Professor in Computational Physics, Director of the Center of Excellence at Chapman University, co-author with Deepak Chopra of the forthcoming book, Who Made God and Other Cosmic Riddles. (Harmony)

P. Murali Doraiswamy, MBBS, FRCP, Professor of Psychiatry, Duke University Medical Center, Durham, North Carolina and a leading physician scientist in the area of mental health, cognitive neuroscience and mind-body medicine.

Rudolph E. Tanzi, Ph.D., Joseph P. and Rose F. Kennedy Professor of Neurology at Harvard University, and Director of the Genetics and Aging Research Unit at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH), co-author with Deepak Chopra of Super Brain: Unleashing the Explosive Power of Your Mind to Maximize Health, Happiness, and Spiritual Well-being. (Harmony)

Neil Theise, MD, Professor, Pathology and Medicine, (Division of Digestive Diseases) and Director of the Liver and Stem Cell Research Laboratory, Beth Israel Medical Center — Mount Sinai School of Medicine, New York. www.neiltheise.com   neiltheise.wordpress.com

Tim Minchin’s Graduation Speech Perfectly Breaks Down Life’s Lessons For Everyone
You might recognize Tim Minchin as a famous Australian musician, composer, songwriter, actor, comedian and writer, but did you know that he is also pretty much a sage when it comes to giving life advice?

Watch Minchin deliver the Occasional Address (aka guest speech) at his alma mater, The University of Western Austrailia. His advice to graduates on how “to be” is funny, inspiring, beautiful and real. To sum it up very very simply, he says:

1. You don’t have to have a dream.

2. Don’t seek happiness.

3. Remember, it’s all luck.

4. Exercise.

5. Be hard on your opinions.

6. Be a teacher.

7. Define yourself by what you love.

8. Respect people with less power than you.

9. Don’t rush.

Listen to these words of wisdom, and you might just get through life perfectly…Or at least, kind of unscathed.

Via The University of Western Australia

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