Become a Guru in Just 2 Weekends

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Become a Guru in Just 2 Weekends
Every day we get sent emails proclaiming the latest discovery, teacher or workshop that we MUST do if we are to have lasting happiness and self-mastery. Each proclaims that if we follow their instructions then we will be free, transformed, changed forever, joyful as never before, fulfilled, fully enlightened. We even received notice of a guru-training program where we can become gurus two weekends, after which, the brochure assured us, we are guaranteed to receive endless adoration, wealth and fame, or our money back.

We were recently sent an invitation to a conference on “Altered States of Consciousness: Enlightenment, Entheogens, Shamanism and Peak Experiences.” There were 46 headlined speakers, all of whom had endless credentials, books, teaching centers and followers. Subjects ranged from “The Humpty Dumpty Trajectory: Cracking Open Consciousness”; to “How to Tell Your Friends From the Apes: Gender-Specific Altered States of Consciousness”; and thankfully, “The Miracle of Ordinary Awareness.”

When we taught at the MindBodySpirit Festival in London England, speakers were offering topics as diverse as “Attract Your Past-Life Soulmate NOW!”; “The Secret Tibetan Red Egg Cure”; “Discover Your Secret Chakras”; and “Learn What Planet You Are From.” And that was just on the first day. Later on you could “Teach Your DNA to Listen to Your Higher Mind” or, if that didn’t work, at least you could “Learn How to Bend Spoons.”

It’s clear that we will try anything when we’re in need of emotional or spiritual support and guidance, making us susceptible and easily vulnerable to outside influences. We’ll easily believe strongly persuasive people who say they can help save us.

There seem to be four main reasons for this:

1. Life does not easily satisfy our needs. We get something but always want more. From constantly wanting more materially and emotionally, we then apply the same need to spirituality: more teachers and techniques must be better than just one, surely this one will finally solve all those nagging difficulties in my life? Or maybe it’s this one?

2. To a large extent religion has failed many of us. We crave more esoteric excitement that sitting in church allows us, more out-of-this-world explanations for why we’re dissatisfied or unhappy, more instant and lasting ways to find happiness than atoning for our sins. There must be more meaning to life than we have found, surely?

3. Like the musk deer in India that has a beautiful smell in its belly but searches throughout the forest for that smell, so we look for happiness outside ourselves. But we’ll always come up short as whatever we find always changes. This is the truth of impermanence: Nothing lasts forever. Yet we continually search for that elusive promise of foreverness wherever we can.

4. We externalize our needs, projecting “the savior” on whoever is the current teacher of the month, believing others sooner than we believe ourselves due to not trusting our own judgement and wisdom. Even though, logically, we are the only ones who can save ourselves, we’d much rather someone else do it for us.

How do we find our way through such a maze? Many teachers may have something wonderful to offer us, but what can we really learn in an hour or two or even a weekend? When we dig for oil we have to dig deep to reach it. If we dig too many different holes we will never get to the source of the oil. In the same way, if we guru hop and workshop too much we will never get to the essence of the teachings.

This blog is a chance for you to do a reality check. Are you listening to your own wisdom or is someone else telling you the way it is? Can you stop and simply be still? Do you go guru shopping or can you look within your own mind and heart for what you know to be true?

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Award-Winning Authors Ed and Deb of Be The Change, How Meditation can Transform You and the World, are mindfulness, meditation and yoga experts. Deb’s new novel: Merging: Women in Love — what happens when you fall in love with the least likely person of the least likely gender? – and she is the author of Your Body Speaks Your Mind, now in 19 languages. They have three meditation CDs. See more at EdandDebShapiro.com

Your Favorite Spring Scents Can Also Bring You Total Relaxation
The stress and strain of constantly being connected can sometimes take your life — and your well-being — off course. GPS For The Soul can help you find your way back to balance.

GPS Guides are our way of showing you what has relieved others’ stress in the hopes that you will be able to identify solutions that work for you. We all have de-stressing “secret weapons” that we pull out in times of tension or anxiety, whether they be photos that relax us or make us smile, songs that bring us back to our heart, quotes or poems that create a feeling of harmony, or meditative exercises that help us find a sense of silence and calm. We encourage you to look at the GPS Guide below, visit our other GPS Guides here, and share with us your own personal tips for finding peace, balance and tranquility.

Now that it’s officially springtime, it’s only a matter of time until we’re outside reaping the season’s beautiful benefits. The spring season can lift us out of our winter blues, open our minds and encourage us to spend more time being active outside. But one of the best parts of spring isn’t just the sunshine — it’s the relaxing scents that come from the change in weather. If you weren’t happy enough that the winter is finally melting away, the five spring scents below should definitely do the trick.

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8 Tips for Navigating Life’s Transitions
One transition we eagerly await is winter turning into spring. It brings abundant sunshine, trees blossoming, warm breezes and a relief from snow. Many of life’s transitions are more difficult for people, especially transitions from childhood into puberty; marriage into divorce or widowhood; high school into college times, etc. These important changes in life have a major impact on us and are tricky to navigate. We can’t avoid them. One thing we know: Change will occur whether we are ready or not. As Heraclitus said: “No man ever steps into the same river twice.”

When I speak to my patients, family and friends, I realize how troubled and confused we all are by these transitions. One common scenario is the “empty-nest syndrome,” in which parents miss their children who have left home to go to college, get married or just go to work. Now many adult “children” are moving back in with their parents after college or after losing their jobs, so nests aren’t so empty anymore, but then parents have to readapt to that change. Today I have found that psychiatrists (including myself) are often treating singles who have divorced and are seeking new relationships. The transition to retirement from a busy work schedule is also anxiety provoking. Since the economy has not fully recovered I have patients who are forced to declare bankruptcy, which causes shame, self-deprecation and isolation in many cases.

Here are some tips on how to handle the transitions:

1) Realize that transitions are inevitable. There is no use in wasting energy to stop the changes. Like puberty or widowhood, these naturally occurring events must happen. Try to accept the change.

2) Another choice: Instead of being passive and letting changes occur, try to be active by anticipating what could happen, how you could make it better, and how to solve problems as they surface.

3) Adjust your usual schedule around the transitions. For instance, one patient of mine always had trouble sleeping as winter passed into spring. I suggested that she set her alarm to wake up earlier so that the light shining through her curtains didn’t disturb her as much and she was more in control of her sleep/wake cycle.

4) Take the time to acknowledge the past, the present, and what you believe is the future. This time out may feel like a waste, but it will allow perspective on the situation. One of my patients was unemployed for seven months. We discovered that she was constantly accusing herself of inadequate work skills, blaming herself for being fired, even though it was clear that her company had downsized. She was able to examine the origin of this problem from the past, take inventory of her present abilities, and finally let herself look forward to her future.

5) If you find that anger or sadness, or some other strong emotion, is holding you back, acknowledge the emotion. Many of us are constantly stuffing emotions, especially negative ones, because our society reinforces logic and intellect over any emotion, even happiness. These emotions are pathways to a deep intuitive part of ourselves that needs to surface and be dealt with.

6) If you are able to break the transitions into smaller pieces you may deal with them better. For instance, a high-school student who is graduating in June may go and visit the college she will be attending in the fall. Then she can talk with students who have been to college, she can decide what classes she would like to attend, etc. When a major change is broken down in this way, it is not so overwhelming.

7) Reinforce each positive step you take towards the transition. A patient of mine was frightened of moving into a supervisor’s position. She followed my suggestions of crediting herself as she advanced. When she was given more responsibility she gave herself credit for being able to handle the new work. Then after she attended a supervisor conference and did well, she celebrated the event by having dinner with some colleagues.

8) Educate yourself about what this transition means to you. For instance, a woman going into menopause read about the topic and understood as much of the biology as she could. She realized that menopause for her meant she wouldn’t have to worry about birth control or deal with messy periods anymore.

Try framing it this way: Be happy that changes constantly occur. If you don’t like what’s happening to you now, wait a while and it will change. If you do like what’s occurring now, enjoy it as much as possible, because it will be different soon.

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