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In my life as a TV boss, I had an abundance of power — or that’s what people thought I had. That’s what they wanted to meet me for. Of course, all I had was an image of power in their heads, nothing more.
Real power is rooted somewhere much deeper: in our inner wisdom. It took me 10 years to understand this and realize that I did not feel good about my life. I didn’t like being available 24/7 or pushing my team at all costs.
Nor could I totally agree with the values that commercial media was built on. Part of me was even ashamed of our content — Big Brother, crime series based on revenge and B-list celebrities eating worms half-naked in the jungle.
The hectic mornings were the worst. I never had time to start my days with a calm mind and peace in my heart.
Now things are different. I resigned and started a business of my own with like-minded people. Now I see success more as a mental state. The better you feel, the more successful you get.
Freedom to Choose
From that perspective, success is about being free to choose your kind of life, that sense of freedom that money can’t buy. When you know who you are, you make better decisions for both yourself and others. It means acting in congruence with your values. You do what you believe is right.
The Dalai Lama has said, “The plain fact is that the planet does not need more successful people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every kind.”
Shift in Values
One way to understand this is Arianna Huffington’s Third Metric, the new definition of success that she describes in her new book Thrive.
Success de facto is something beyond money and power. It’s about feeling good, giving back generously and having enough time to look at the wonders of life. It means having a life to live.
Shouldn’t we include these attributes in the new definition of success?
More than anything, success is abundance — not physical or material abundance but abundance within.
There are endless resources inside ourselves: inner wisdom, abilities to value others and voids of gratitude. The more we can enhance these dimensions in our lives, the more deeply successful we get.
However, most of us need guides and tools to get there. This encouraged us to create our company, New.me. It is our mission to give the world inspiration and tools for personal growth.
There’s a quotation that’s widely attributed to Aristotle: “Where your talents and the needs of the world cross, there lies your vocation.”
It’s the place where this happens is hidden in the moments we have — moments of meaning and purpose, moments of being part of something bigger, moments of creating something sustainable and beautiful together.
A better world, for example.
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“What does it mean when you have a fever?”
“It means that there are toxic cells in your body that cannot live above 98.6 degrees and your body is trying to burn them off.”
“What do we do?”
“Take Tylenol to lower the fever.”
“What does this do?”
“Helps keep the toxins alive in our bodies longer.”
“What does it mean when you have diarrhea?”
“It means that there are toxins in your colon that your body is trying to get out.”
“What do we do?”
“What does this do?”
“Shuts down our elimination system so that the toxins stay in our bodies longer.”
“What does it mean when you have a runny nose?”
“It means that there are toxins in your head which is producing mucus to get them out.”
“What do we do?’
“What does this do?”
“Dries up our noses and keeps the toxins in our bodies longer.”
Western medicine is awesome for treating symptoms such as fevers, diarrhea, and runny noses; it is also wonderful for breaking down our bodies into separate components and treating them individually.
But have you ever imagined that this might be missing the forest for the trees? For the human body can also be seen as an integral system, a holistic organism. Western medicine is nonpareil regarding organ transplants, bone marrow transplants, and analyzing body parts such as brains down to their minutest details. But this is still only one way of envisioning the human body and its scope and depth are constantly being updated and revised. However, omniscience remains elusive. For instance, Western science cannot explain how the moon influences the tides or how acupuncture needles in ears or feet move energy through an invisible meridian system and rebalance “chi” in the liver or kidneys.
Did you know that until around 150 years ago surgery was performed in barber shops and the anesthesia was whiskey? Personally I believe that in 150 years people will look back on some of our contemporary procedures such as root canals the way we look back on leeching – namely, as barbaric.
Parallel to physical health, if you analyze the bible of mental health – the DSM – you will quickly find that the barometer for mental wellness in our society is “Can you show up for work, be a productive member of society, and earn a living?” Or more specifically, “Can you do your ‘job?'” And if you cannot, then the pharmaceutical corporations have remedies for whatever ails you from working, whether it is insomnia, an inability to concentrate, a broken heart, sundry afflictions, worries, erratic moods, obsessive behavior, or bereavement. But did you know that according to the New York Times over 50% of the psychiatrists who wrote the DSM received money at some time from pharmaceutical corporations? Are you beginning to see a possible conflict of interest in our definition(s) of mental illness?
Similarly, regarding physical well-being, we dislike fevers, diarrhea, and runny noses because they impede us from working or doing things. But could these symptoms not also be interpreted holistically to mean, “Hey, slow down, you’re not taking care of yourself, you’re not eating correctly, you’re not sleeping enough, you’re so stressed out that your immune system is on overload… are you really sure you were put on earth to work 80 hours per week???.”
This is what Mindful Medicine is: looking at the big picture, regarding the body as a holistic mechanism and interpreting symptoms on a grander scale. That doesn’t mean that we should not treat our ailments; it just means that having expanded perspectives on how our entire organisms are functioning might keep us healthy longer. Tylenol, Imodium, and antihistamines are highly effective pharmaceuticals, but just like Band-Aids they don’t solve the underlying problems; they just cover them up.