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Well, the Goldfarb twins decided to perform their own lip-synced version of the song, complete with their mom in the backseat quietly judging them.
Their video is pretty great, but does it beat the original car lip-syncing duo? Tell us what you think in the comments below!
It’s made me think about the term hindsight. Hindsight is a part of our story that we did not see the meaning of the first time around. My wonderful father recently said his hindsight is “100 percent.”
My family has been going through some challenging times over the past couple of months. I know that all families go through challenging times. Hell, life itself is a challenge. What feels different is that hindsight is coming frequently to me now like a flashback.
Hindsight can, and usually does, help one gain a whole new perspective. I’m presently feeling somewhat anxious and overwhelmed by some of my hindsight. I can see how there have been times in the past I have not been as understanding of others as I should of or could have been. Ouch!
Hindsight makes me want to publicly thank my parents for raising me the way they did. I want to tell them I’m sorry that it has taken me so long to understand how much work it was for them to get me and my two older sisters to adulthood and beyond. That is a concept that I could not grasp until I became a parent myself; and then not fully until the rewards and challenges of parenting presented themselves to me.
I’m very fortunate that both my parents are still alive and well. I find myself knowingly not telling them certain pieces of information on occasion, because they deserve a peaceful retirement. I want to protect them, as I know they’ve always wanted to protect me. Hindsight has shown me the effects of stress. I don’t want to add stress to their time. That’s a concern I have, not stressing others with my stress.
I knew from a young age that I had a lot of love to give any child I would be blessed with. With hindsight’s help, I’ve learned what I did not know about parenting. Such as how lovely, concerning, crazy, hilarious and exhausting it can be. I was not previously aware that getting your children to the age of 18 did not mean that you would no longer worry about them like you did when they were younger. NO! It’s difficult at best to ever stop worrying about them. The type of worry just changes. There’s that hindsight again. When my children were very little I was up at night feeding and nurturing them. Now I’m up at night worrying if they are safe, or in trouble, or doing something that may negatively affect the rest of their life.
I fear that I haven’t done all that I might have to teach them how this world can be. I know that I could not have taught them all they needed to know about the world of today, because it’s a different place than it was for me growing up, due to technology and population growth. I see my parents looking at my generation and my children’s generation, and shaking their proverbial heads. Sometimes I’m shaking my head as well, because hindsight has taught me that being a parent still doesn’t mean you have all the answers. Situations are going to arise that you will not be quite sure how to handle. You need to remain open to learning as you go, and to never stop searching for knowledge. You will not always be right. You will be humbled. You will need to say, “I’m sorry.” You will feel guilt. You will feel vulnerable. Your heart will be touched in ways you may not be prepared for. Please have mercy on me future hindsight.
Hindsight has helped me see that when I was a teenager and thought my parents didn’t understand me, and didn’t know what they were talking about, they really did. I’m now struggling with this type of realization with my own children. I do not need hindsight to understand that my kids are wonderful souls. But even really good souls have to learn lessons. And even good enough parents sometimes have to step back and let their kids learn lessons for themselves. That’s been hard for me to do. I want to tell them why they shouldn’t do something. I still want to protect them from disappointment and pain. But there’s no way to prevent kids from doing things in their own unique way. They will experience some hard times, as they too need to learn about hindsight.
Hindsight has confirmed for me that my first love was special even though it ended; that laughter truly is good medicine; that hanging out with my girlfriends is still a blast; that animals are wise and make great friends; that compassion and forgiveness are keys to very special locks; and that I have been a spiritual person ever since I can remember.
In honor of Shelby, Chris and Skylar, I love you more than words can express. I know I’m far from perfect and that I have made mistakes. Hopefully you will understand one day that I have always tried to do my best as your mom, and as a person. You have all had a profound impact on my life. My favorite thing next to hugging you is to laugh out loud with you. You’re in my heart for eternity.
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On Sept. 3, 2012, James K. Flanagan of West Long Branch, N.J., died unexpectedly of a heart attack. He wrote this letter to his five grandchildren just months earlier and it is reprinted here with the permission of his daughter Rachel Creighton.
Dear Ryan, Conor, Brendan, Charlie, and Mary Catherine,
My wise and thoughtful daughter Rachel urged me to write down some advice for you, the important things that I have learned about life. I am beginning this on 8 April 2012, the eve of my 72nd birthday.
1. Each one of you is a wonderful gift of God both to your family and to all the world. Remember it always, especially when the cold winds of doubt and discouragement fall upon your life.
2. Be not afraid . . . of anyone or of anything when it comes to living your life most fully. Pursue your hopes and your dreams no matter how difficult or “different” they may seem to others. Far too many people don’t do what they want or should do because of what they imagine others may think or say. Remember, if they don’t bring you chicken soup when you’re sick or stand by you when you’re in trouble, they don’t matter. Avoid those sour-souled pessimists who listen to your dreams then say, “Yeah, but what if . . .” The heck with “what if. . .” Do it! The worst thing in life is to look back and say: “I would have; I could have; I should have.” Take risks, make mistakes.
3. Everyone in the world is just an ordinary person. Some people may wear fancy hats or have big titles or (temporarily) have power and want you to think they are above the rest. Don’t believe them. They have the same doubts, fears, and hopes; they eat, drink, sleep, and fart like everyone else. Question authority always but be wise and careful about the way you do it.
4. Make a Life List of all those things you want to do: travel to places; learn a skill; master a language; meet someone special. Make it long and do some things from it every year. Don’t say “I’ll do it tomorrow” (or next month or next year). That is the surest way to fail to do something. There is no tomorrow, and there is no “right” time to begin something except now.
5. Practice the Irish proverb: Moi an olge agus tiocfaidh sí “Praise the child and she will flourish.”
6. Be kind and go out of your way to help people — especially the weak, the fearful, and children. Everyone is carrying a special sorrow, and they need our compassion.
7. Don’t join the military or any organization that trains you to kill. War is evil. All wars are started by old men who force or fool young men to hate and to kill each other. The old men survive, and, just as they started the war with pen and paper, they end it the same way. So many good and innocent people die. If wars are so good and noble, why aren’t those leaders who start wars right up there fighting?
8. Read books, as many as you can. They are a wonderful source of delight, wisdom, and inspiration. They need no batteries or connections, and they can go anywhere.
9. Be truthful.
10. Travel: always but especially when you are young. Don’t wait until you have “enough” money or until everything is “just right.” That never happens. Get your passport today.
11. Pick your job or profession because you love to do it. Sure, there will be some things hard about it, but a job must be a joy. Beware of taking a job for money alone — it will cripple your soul.
12. Don’t yell. It never works, and it hurts both yourself and others. Every time I have yelled, I have failed.
13. Always keep promises to children. Don’t say “we’ll see” when you mean “no.” Children expect the truth; give it to them with love and kindness.
14. Never tell anyone you love them when you don’t.
15. Live in harmony with Nature: go into the outdoors, woods, mountains, sea, desert. It’s important for your soul.
16. Visit Ireland. It’s where the soul of our family was born — especially the West: Roscommon, Clare, and Kerry.
17. Hug people you love. Tell them how much they mean to you now; don’t wait until it’s too late.
18. Be grateful. There is an Irish saying: “This is a day in our lives, and it will not come again.” Live every day with this in mind.
As was written in his obituary, James K. Flanagan “was proudly liberal and fought unyieldingly for the underdog. He was an accomplished author, poet, and seanchai — Irish storyteller; he reveled in recounting the joy of growing up Catholic in Jersey City and his adventures in the Adirondack Mountains and on the Western coast of Ireland. His greatest love was spending time with his family, most of all his five grandchildren” Ryan (11); Conor (10); Brendan (9); Charles (8); and Mary Catherine (5).”