30 Ways To Do The Things You Love Without Your Smartphone

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
30 Ways To Do The Things You Love Without Your Smartphone
In our tech-obsessed culture, our smartphones seem to be as essential as our wallets when we’re heading out the door — and when we accidentally leave home without ours, panic ensues.

But what if we started doing it on purpose?

Before there were gadgets stocked with newsfeeds, emails and text messages, there were these activities. Next time you’re looking something to do — device free — take a look at the list below.

1. Paint or color something.
You wouldn’t want your watercolors to splatter your screen, right? Before there was the Draw Something app, there was a coloring book and a canvas — and that activity you did daily as a kid may help ease stress and anxiety as an adult.

2. Take a nap without using your phone as an alarm.
Studies have shown that stashing your phone under the pillow can disrupt your sleep, anyway.

3. Go for an iPod-free run.
Let nature be your soundtrack this time.

4. Log some one-on-one time with your pet over the ones on YouTube.
golden retriever
As addicting as funny cat videos are, there are more benefits to hanging with your real-life pets. A recent study found that 20 percent of pet owners would give up cuddling with their pets over giving up their smartphones (woof!). Spend an afternoon with your furry friend — research has proven that owning a pet can significantly lower your stress.

5. Take a break from binge-watching Netflix and head to a matinee movie or play instead.

6. Put pen to paper.
Studies have shown that writing down what you’re grateful for has a positive impact on overall happiness and the physical act of writing can even help you learn better. Instead of typing a text message on a mini keyboard, try it the old fashioned way.

7. Go on a hike and use a paper map to help you find your way.

8. Perfect your Baked Alaska with a recipe from an actual cookbook.

9. Go to dinner with your friends.
Food is meant to be enjoyed, not just Instagrammed. Next time you go out to dinner with your friends, try the phone stacking game. The first to pick up their phone during the meal also picks up the tab.

10. Read an actual newspaper.

11. Play some brain games on paper.
Exercise your mind with some sudoko or a crossword puzzle — it may even make you more productive and boost your creativity.

12. Get lost in a a real book instead of a Kindle.
reading book
Reading has numerous brain benefits. Getting wrapped up in a good story can reduce stress, may help you sleep better and even may make you more empathetic.

13. Flip through a regular magazine (not one on Flipboard).

14. Go for a drive with no particular destination or GPS device.

15. Thumb through old photo albums.
And no, not the albums you have on Facebook. Studies have found that a little nostalgia can actually be a good thing. Reflecting on the past can boost your optimism for the future because it raises your self-esteem, according to a Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin study.

16. Indulge in a little mindfulness meditation.
Rather than zoning out by tuning into your phone, go deeper with a meditation session. As “Nightline” anchor Dan Harris says, meditation is “a bicep curl for your brain.” Meditating for just a little bit each day can ease emotional stress and even strengthen your immune system.

17. Capture photos or a video using a real camera.

18. Pick up an instrument.
By stepping away from the Rock Band and grabbing a real guitar, you could be doing wonders for your wellness. Learning to play an instrument can reduce stress, is linked to better sound processing and helps keep your memory sharp. Don’t know how to play one? Good news: it’s never too late to learn.

19. Play tourist for the day in your own city using a real guidebook.

20. Grab a drink with an old friend from college.
drinks with friends
Make it a point to catch up in-person with those who you’ve fallen out of touch with — it’ll give a whole new meaning to the word “FaceTime.”

21. Watch a sunrise or a sunset without trying to capture it.

22. Take a day trip to a town close to you, sans Google maps.

23. Have a bonding day with your kids or parents.
Forget Skype for a day. Our relationships are valuable and it’s important to strengthen them away from our screens. According to research published in the Journal of Socio-Economics, people’s social connections are worth $131,232 a year in terms of life satisfaction.

24. Experience Spotify in real life by going to a concert.

25. Make a scrapbook.
All those pictures you do take on your smartphone have to go somewhere besides Instagram, right?

26. Organize your real desktop.
organized desk
Ultra-organized people know the value of a clean work station. And since those ever-tidy individuals tend to be optimistic, have a can-do attitude and are always prepared, perhaps it’s time to stash the phone for a little while and get to sorting.

27. Brush up on your math skills.
Have your brain be your tip calculator the next time you go to dinner.

28. Forgo Google translator and learn a few new phrases in another language.

29. Star gaze.
starry sky
Since the introduction of stargazing apps, many of us seem to forget that we can observe the stars without using our phones to identify the constellations. Pick a quiet night to just lie underneath the sky and pick out the star patterns you remember from high school.

30. Put together a jigsaw puzzle instead of playing Bejeweled.

Did we miss any? Share your ideas for activities you enjoy doing without your phone in the comments below.

5 Things Preventing You From Attracting Your Beloved
Most of us would love to be in a loving, committed relationship. Yet, for many, this seems to be elusive. There are some good reasons for this.

1. We Attract at Our Common Level of Self-Abandonment or Self-Love
Do you abandon yourself in one or more of these four ways?

Staying focused in your head rather than being present with your feelings in your body
Judging yourself harshly, putting a lot of pressure on yourself
Turning to various addictions to avoid your feelings and to fill up inner emptiness
Making others responsible for your happiness and self-worth

People who love and value themselves, and take responsibility for their own happiness and self-worth, are not attracted to people who abandon themselves. Two people who abandon themselves often get together, hoping the other person will give them the love they are not giving to themselves, only to be disappointed and move on. We do not have love to share with another when we are not loving ourselves.

2. Fear of Rejection — Loss of Other
When you abandon yourself — which means that you are rejecting yourself — then you naturally fear being rejected by others. The fear of rejection leads to feeling anxious in relationships, which leads to trying to have control over not being rejected. Whatever you do to try to control not being rejected — being overly nice, having sex too soon, giving yourself up and being compliant, tolerating unloving behavior on the part of the other person — is inauthentic and often leads to the rejection you are trying to avoid.

3. Fear of Engulfment — Loss of Self
If you came from controlling parents and learned to give yourself up to avoid a loss of love, then you might have a big fear of being consumed and smothered in a relationship. You might believe that you need to give yourself up to be loved — to avoid rejection — and this fear might lead you to pull back from a relationship the moment it starts to get close. If you find yourself coming on strong at the beginning of a relationship and then losing interest as soon as the other person is interested, then you likely have a fear of engulfment and are relationship-avoidant.

4. Level of Happiness and Self-Worth
If you are an unhappy person with low self-worth, do you expect that a happy person with high self-worth is going to be attracted to you? This is very unlikely. The problem is also that you might not be attracted to another unhappy person. You might hope to find a happy person who will make you happy, but it doesn’t generally work this way.

If you want to attract a happy person and create a loving relationship, then you need to first do your inner work to become a happy, loving person.

5. Attachment to the Outcome
When you meet someone and you become attached to the outcome, in terms of making your happiness and worth dependent on the other person liking you, you may put out an energy that actually pushes the other person away. Most of us don’t want to be responsible for another’s happiness, worth and well-being. It doesn’t feel like love when someone is focused on getting love rather than on being loving.

Getting Love, Being Loving
This is the essence of the issue of attracting your beloved. Is your primary intent in being in a relationship to get love, or is it to share your love with your beloved? If it’s to get love — due to your own self-abandonment — then your challenge in attracting your beloved is to learn to love yourself and share your love.

If you want to be in a loving, committed relationship and you have not been able to manifest this in your life, or if your current relationship isn’t working, then you first need to learn to create a loving relationship with yourself. Once you know how to fill yourself up with love to share with a partner, you will find that you have a much easier time attracting your beloved and creating a loving relationship.

Join Dr. Margaret Paul for her 30-Day at-home Relationships Course: “Loving Relationships: A 30-Day at-Home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul – For people who are partnered and people who want to be partnered.”

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