What Nature Taught Me This Week

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
What Nature Taught Me This Week
We’ve all heard that nature is one of humanity’s greatest teachers — but we have to listen. Well, it seems my ears have been particularly receptive this past week with a number of lessons heard and emphasized. Because nature figures so prominently in my spiritual practice, this is both reaffirming and encouraging. It reaffirms what I’ve intuitively known for as long as I can remember, and it encourages me to hold steady as I move forward after my partner’s death in 2012.

Lesson One: Nature Makes Us Nicer
I walk frequently on the city’s watershed trails near my home. Often, I’m the only person around, and it’s easy to let my mind wander while I focus on the trees, birds, streams, etc. When I do come across another person, I’m always struck by how friendly we are to each other. Although I consider myself approachable, I never speak to strangers when I pass them on city streets, but in the woods, those barriers fall. On the trails, we all smile at each other and say hello (except for the joggers because they’re always in a hurry). Even the dogs are friendly — but calm, not in that oh-my-god-a-person-I-must-lick-you! way. On the local sidewalks, dogs strain against their leashes to greet me. But on the trails, dogs hardly notice me — even when they’re unleashed (in spite of city ordinances). The dogs see but don’t rush, don’t jump and keep right in line with their humans. I can’t quite explain it all, but I chalk up to a sense that this space belongs to everyone. Dogs don’t feel territorial or threatened, nor do the people. We’re all just happy to be outside enjoying nature, and it helps us let down our walls.

Lesson Two: Nobody’s Perfect
Take a walk in the woods and you’ll see all kinds of twisted, gnarled and strange looking plant life. Some trees grow in odd directions, some have scars over missing bark, others lean in uncomfortable angles, limbs are missing, trunks covered in woodpecker holes, lichen and moss. Remarkably, they all survive. They make use of the space they’re in and make it work for as long as possible. I wish I could be more like that. I’m always searching for the perfect work situation or life circumstances. THEN I’ll be happy, right? I worry about the sun spots on my face, my surgery scars and my loss of muscle tone. Although we humans are obsessed with perfection, nature isn’t. Some trees are fine specimens — others not so much. Some live long while others succumb to disease or wildlife. Truly, it’s a mirror of our own condition. None of us are alike and none of us are perfect, each with little “flaws” we wish we could erase. Maybe the trees simply don’t and can’t care about this — and I’d like to be more like that, because I think I could enjoy my life more.

Lesson Three: You’re Not in Control
Some days I want the world to stop. With all I’ve experienced over the last two years, it’s difficult to get out of bed. Days blur together as I go through the motions of eating, sleeping, shaving and all the other mundane stuff we must do. Another day comes and another and another, and it doesn’t seem to mean very much. If I could just hit “pause,” I think, and get myself together, then I’d be ready. But nature doesn’t work that way. I watched a little bird the other day search through some brush for food, and I thought about how it has to do this every single day. In comparison, my life is sweet! Does the bird wish it had a cupboard and refrigerator to store food? I don’t know, but it occurred to me that this is simply how things work. The Earth continues revolving around the sun and won’t stop, no matter what tragedies we experience in our small lives. Yes, we must eat a couple of times every day in order to live, and we must work to provide for ourselves. This realization doesn’t exactly make it easier when you’re depressed, but accepting that you’re not in control and understanding that this is the way things are — this has gone a long way in helping me relax and simply do what I must do. No resistance — it’s been a mantra of mine, and it’s worth emphasizing.

Lesson Four: Let Go
I transplanted two saplings recently, and it was delicate work to free their roots from the soil so they could be moved. As I did this, I unconsciously began talking to the first tree, encouraging it to let go, so it could move to its new home where the roots would have more room to grow and it could truly thrive and have a better chance at life. It had simply outgrown the raised bed in which it was originally planted. I tried to keep all the roots, but a few tiny ones snapped and my spade took out a larger root. I hope I didn’t do any permanent damage, but regardless, staying in that raised bed would mean their growth would be stunted and they would likely day before their time. “I know this might hurt and stress you out,” I said to the tree, “But this new spot will be much better for you.” And then it hit me I was talking about myself. I’m selling the home where my partner and I lived, and we put down deep roots. But I have to leave because it isn’t sustainable here. I can’t afford it, and I’ll forever be reminded of what I’ve lost. So, little by little, I’m letting go. Sure, it’s stressing me out and it’s gonna hurt, but I will heal and a new home will do me good.

What has nature taught you? Are you listening?

It’s Time to Get Over It!
My hunch is you are carrying around something that is very heavy and causes you unnecessary suffering. This thing blocks you from the experiences and connections you desire. It weighs you down, holds you back and robs you of joy.

What is this dreadful thing I am talking about?

It is your story.

You see we all create a story about ourselves and the way life works for us based on experiences we have had. And usually parts of this story are pretty negative. Common self-defeating and deflating story lines include: “I do not belong, I am not enough, life is hard, people are not trustworthy, everyone else is better, something is wrong with me, I am not deserving, I should be doing more, I need to make others happy, love is painful, etc.”

Super uplifting story lines, huh?

No! But I bet you can relate to a few of them. You are not alone. Part of the old story I carried around for decades had to do with not belonging or being likable. This story stopped me from doing things in my life or made doing certain things miserable.

Over the weekend I attended my friend Gabby’s wedding and reflected upon how liberating it was not to carry around that old story that would have either prevented me from going to an event alone across the country; or, made the weekend unpleasant if I did go because of the tape from an old story playing in my head. Thank goodness that old story is out of syndication in my mind!

Today I want you to have the same freedom and enjoy your life even more by putting down the heavy load of outdated and limiting beliefs that, by the way, are not true! It’s time to drop the happiness-killing negative story that goes off in your head and impacts your experience and your results.

Here’s how:

Put yourself in situations that stretch you outside your comfort zone and practice creating a new desirable story during an experience where the tapes from your old stories would have played. In order to truly drop our story, we must rewire our brain. We can only do that when we are in situations that trigger the old script and consciously write a new one.

For example, if you have an old story about not being enough that makes you feel insecure and avoid social situations, then get yourself out there! If you have an old story about not feeling heard, start speaking up or take a class in public speaking. If you have an old story around rejection, ask someone for something. If and when you feel that old story creeping in, consciously catch it and choose how you want to feel, think and act instead.

Transformation is energetic. If your personal growth work involves only analyzing yourself, processing your past, and pontificating or planning your future, you will not shift on an energetic level. Stop playing it so safe of you want different results. Get yourself out there and gift yourself with the opportunity to drop that old heavy load of you know what you’ve been carrying around.

I want to hear about the stories you are dropping and the new ones you are writing so head over the blog and leave a comment!



The Dalai Lama’s Simple Guide To Happiness That We Can All Practice (VIDEO)
Happiness isn’t as difficult to find as it may seem.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama shared two values to focus on which hold the key to a happy life during a live-broadcast interview with HuffPost Live’s Willow Bay on Tuesday.

The Buddhist leader talked about the importance of banishing fear and suspicion from our lives, and emphasized the need for trusting friendships.

See his tips for having a healthier, happier, and wiser life in the clip above and watch the entire interview here.

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