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When he was 18 months old, Nicholas, who has Down syndrome, was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, according to the GoFundMe page his parents set up to raise money for a diabetic alert dog.
It can be hard to know if his blood sugar is at a dangerous level, and Nicholas has a difficult time communicating, so this type of dog is trained to alert his parents, Krista and Chris Keim, when Nicholas’ blood sugar drops, HLN reported.
His family has raised more than $13,000 to get a dog through the National Institute of Diabetic Alert Dogs, according to News 10. The money will go toward an alert dog named Andy, who will hopefully give Nicholas the ability to play sports and be as active as possible without his parents needing to look over him all the time. Now that his family has raised enough for Andy, they hope to raise funds for other families in need, HLN reported.
Earlier this month, Krista Keim told KCRA that Nicholas has been looking out the window eagerly awaiting Andy’s arrival.
“The diabetic alert dog could essentially save his life,” she told HLN.
By Iyanla Vanzant
Q: How do I break a negative pattern?
1. First, notice it.
Maybe you always end up in drama-filled relationships, or you go through endless cycles of overeating and guilt. The challenge with negative patterns is that they’re unconscious. But we can train our minds to recognize them by paying attention to our emotions: When we feel pain we’ve felt countless times before, we must ask ourselves why.
2. Second, know its cause.
We fall into patterns because we fail to face reality. We return to the same bad situation, hoping that this time will be different. I’ve said it before: What we resist will persist. When we aren’t honest with ourselves about what we feel, we are doomed to repeat our mistakes.
3. Slow down!
Many patterns occur because we move too fast to see things for what they really are. We meet someone today and go on a date tomorrow, and by the next day, we’re already imagining the wedding. The key is to manage our expectations to see what’s really occurring right in front of us.
4. Forgive yourself.
Forgiveness clears out the residue of the past. Until we forgive ourselves for what we did, did not do, or should have done, we will repeat our patterns. But when the mind is clear of guilt and shame, it focuses on what is here instead of what was, and lets us take each moment as it comes.
5. Check in.
When we recognize that we’re doing (again) what we’ve always done, we can’t wait: We must stop ourselves in the moment. Ask yourself, What am I doing, and why? Breathe yourself through that thought — and make another choice right then and there.
Iyanla Vanzant is the host of OWN’s “Iyanla: Fix My Life” and the author of Peace from Broken Pieces (SmileyBooks).
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1. Start your day with some deep breaths.
My day often starts with a wave of overwhelm about the tasks ahead and the lack of time to complete them. When you start the day overwhelmed, the worry begins. “How will I be able to get all this done? What if I don’t have enough time? What if I let people down? What if I fall behind and can’t catch up?” Start your day with 30-60 seconds of deep breathing. This will bring oxygen to your brain and trick your brain into feeling calm. Your body will feel more calm too.
2. Check your thinking.
Once you have recalibrated your brain and body with some deep breathing, check in with your thinking. Investigate and observe your thoughts. You will likely find they are filled with “What if,” “What will people think” and “I should be” statements. Those statements actually trigger the fear center of your brain to be alert and ready for “fight or flight.” This is why you get the physical sensations in your chest (lungs restricting), headaches and light-headed (blood leaving your brain for your arms and legs to mobilize), and stomachaches and butterflies (blood leaving your stomach for arms and legs).
3. Change your thinking.
Just as our anxious and irrational thinking turns on our fear center, changing our thinking to more adaptive and rational thoughts turns down our alarm system and puts it in “rest mode.” Try replacing your thoughts with something like, “I know I have a lot to do today. I will prioritize and get as much done as I can.” Or, “I know a lot of people are counting on me. I always do the best I can and will continue to. That’s all I can do.” You will be surprised how doing this (and trying to believe the new thought) will result in more room to think and breathe.
4. Stay in the present.
This is the most simple and effective technique, yet so often hard to do. All worry exists in the future. The outcome or lack of outcome you are likely worrying about has not happened yet. How do I know? Because all the “What ifs” are about the future, and further, we often don’t have control over the outcome of the future event we are worrying about. “What if my child has another bad day?” “What if I don’t get the promotion?” “What if I get laid off?” The key is that they haven’t happened yet. So focus on the present, and if you drift to the future, tell yourself you will problem solve and figure it out then.
5. Commit to a worry-free hour, half day, and eventually day.
Worrying less requires a full commitment. Most of us want to worry less, but we just want it to happen. Worrying less takes determination, courage, and practice. Make less worrying a priority — commit to scheduling a worry-free (or even a worry less) time. Start with an hour, part of a day, and eventually a full-day. On the flip side, if you need time to worry, schedule that too, but then move quickly back to being worry-free.
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