Brain region essential for social memory identified

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Brain region essential for social memory identified
A small region of the hippocampus known as CA2 is essential for social memory, the ability of an animal to recognize another of the same species, a new study concludes. In humans, the importance of the hippocampus for social memory was famously illustrated by the case of Henry Molaison, who had much of his hippocampus removed by surgeons in 1953 in an attempt to cure severe epilepsy. Molaison was subsequently unable to form new memories of people. A better grasp of the function of CA2 could prove useful in understanding and treating disorders characterized by altered social behaviors, such as autism, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder.

Equal and equal is unequal: Choosing marriage partner contributes to income inequality, study finds
Changes in society in choosing a marriage partner contribute to income inequality across households, according to a new study. Researchers analyzed the interaction of marriage partner choices and the distribution of income across households. Positive assortative mating, or in other words, the tendency of choosing a partner with the same level of education or income, has increased so significantly over the past five decades in the U.S., that it has a considerable effect on the national income distribution.

GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
7 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Life Coach
I have a theory: In almost any major metropolitan city in the United States, you could swing your purse and hit a life coach. Life coaches may also have titles like nutrition coach, relationship coach, wellness coach, executive coach, holistic coach, or business coach.

While I was starting my business, I looked for a life coach to guide me in the process. I assumed that because Google ranked a website at the top, that person must be most popular. I was Google naïve. My marketing team taught me that people can pay to be listed in that position or have maneuvered their website SEO rankings.

I called the entire first page of listings, and not a single advertised life coach could tell me where they trained, who certified them, or what other qualifications they had to help me set up my small business. Through networking, I eventually found a business coach who had experience helping other national experts set up similar businesses like mine.

It’s important to find the right life coach that will work with you, but not just because they’re at the top of Google. Ask these seven questions in choosing a life coach:

1: What issue do you need guidance with?

Be wary of life coaches who claim that they can solve anything from helping you lose weight to coping with divorce to planning your own small business. Ask yourself, what area are you looking to improve or move forward with in your life? Are you looking for happiness? Are you in need of improving your health? Are you interested in developing your leadership and management skills? When you are specific and clear about your goals, it is easier to find a personal life coach who could guide you.

2: What type of training or certification did the life coach receive?

In the United States, there is no governing body overseeing the life coach training industry. People can claim to be a life coach but may have done so by watching videos or reading self-help books.

Alan Cohen, M.A., founder and director of the Foundation for Holistic Life Coaching and author of 24 self-improvement books including I Had it All the Time, advises:

Since anyone can claim to be a life coach, a client should inquire as to the nature and extent of a coach’s training. A credible life coach has undergone a significant body of coursework, has received guidance and feedback from a qualified supervisor, and has experience in the field. Clients should ask the coach about his/her training and check the website of the program in which the coach has been educated.

3. What makes the coach an expert or authority in their field?

Many marketing programs encourage people to label themselves as an “expert or authority” and list that on a website. Don’t be afraid to ask the person what makes them an authority or expert in their field. Professional and personal life coaches may have additional skills from previous careers and education. For instance, many executive coaches have also held corporate leadership positions and have a degree in business in addition to being a trained executive coach. A true authority or expert has a specific educational background, work experience in the field, and/or a wealth of personal experience in the area they are advertising.

4. Are you open to change?

A qualified life coach is not there to be your BFF or your nagging mother. They are interested in helping your grow, achieve your goals, and maybe even stretch yourself beyond boundaries you have created for yourself. Life coaches are your advocates, but they are not here to tell you what to do. Personal life coaches help their clients explore and come up with the best choices for them based on where they are and the client’s vision for their future. Coaches are experts at the process of changing behavior, which can be more valuable than giving instructions.

5. Are you really in need of a mental health professional?

Life coaching is not a substitute for mental health counseling. If you or a loved one have a diagnosis of a mental health issue, a life coach should not be the first step. It is best to have a mental health provider like a psychiatrist, psychologist, or trained mental health counselor help with diagnosis, treatment and counseling.

6. Why would a professional also train to be a life coach?

Cohen states, “Life coaching skills can be a huge asset in any profession that requires working with people. Doctors, attorneys, real estate agents, investment bankers, teachers, and massage therapists, for example, consistently report that the skills of presence, listening, empathy, validation, and reframing help them connect with their clients and accelerate their success while deepening their sense of personal reward through human connection.”

7. How do I know if the life coaching sessions are working?

A professionally-trained life coach will help you set clear goals that are in alignment with your intention. They will not do the work for you, but be an advocate for you to accomplish your goals. Work with your life coach to set a reasonable time frame. It is important to remember, that it may have taken you months or years to get stuck in your current issue. It will likely take more than one session to start moving in a forward direction. Most coaches will offer packages to help support you in your mission.

Romila “Dr. Romie” Mushtaq, MD is a neurologist with expertise in the field of mind-body medicine — a branch of medicine that promotes the science behind mindfulness based techniques. She is also a hatha yoga and meditation teacher. Dr. Romie helps clients heal by teaching mindfulness-based stress reduction techniques at the Natural and Integrative Medical Center in Orlando, Florida.

Dr. Romie writes at, where you can sign up for weekly mantras for mindful living. You can follow Dr. Romie on Twitter, Facebook and connect with her on LinkedIn. Her guided meditation CD, “Connect To Joy: Guided Meditation to Quiet the Mind” is now available on iTunes.

5 Conversations All Women Should Stop Having
By Amy Shearn

It’s easy to share gripes about gray hairs and dimply thighs, but come on, we have more interesting things to say to each other than that.

1. The “I’m So Exhausted I Could Fall Down” Conversation

We’re all running on empty; we all have too much on our plates. But dishing about our exhaustion not only gets a little — you guessed it—tiring, it may also make us more tired. Thinking you’ve had a good night’s sleep has the same benefits as actually having a good night’s sleep, new research suggests. This is not to say you should stay up all night getting stressed out about how you need to think positively and get to sleep, mind you. This is only to say: We can talk instead about something actually refreshing, like, I don’t know, lemon mousse.

2. The “Complicated-Food” Conversation

Be the topic Paleo diets, juicing recipes, gluten allergies or your penchant for locally sourced shaman-approved pork sausage, let’s all just agree to talk about food 30 percent less. Please?

3. (a) The “Ye-Olde-Blame-the-Parents” Conversation

Are you older than 25 years old? Have you moved out of your parents’ house? Are you within driving distance of a licensed therapist? However difficult, lonely or even flat-out horrible growing up was (and I do not say this lightly), remember that you have both the right to not like your parents and the right to still be upset. But your choices are not their fault anymore. Simply by being an adult, you have earned the privilege of blaming — and freeing — yourself.

3. (b) The “Ye-Olde-Blame-Anbody-Else” Conversation

As nutty as it sounds, I have a perfectly sane and lovely neighbor who blames everything that is wrong with her existence on her hairstylist, who perpetually ignores her directives and gives her a haircut that causes her bad self-esteem and a feeling of powerlessness. And, guess what? It’s been going on for years. She keeps going back — as so many of us do, to the lousy boyfriend or to the friend who cancels five minutes before she’s due to arrive. If someone has done some wrong to you more than three times, and you have said or done nothing to change things, then your blaming quota is used up. Time to move on to discussing your part in the turn of events.

4. The “But Where Do YOU Want to Go?” Conversation

Did you know that the average person spends 37 percent of her life deciding where to go to dinner? Okay, so that’s not actually true, but it sure feels that way when you’re engaged in a hot and heavy volley of “Whatever you want to do!” Adopt this handy rule my co-worker swears by: If someone is coming to your neck of the woods, choose the restaurant; because, after all, you would know best. If you are going to his or her geographical location, your companion chooses. Spend all that time you’ve saved agonizing over what to order. Wait, no, I mean, laughing over glasses of wine with your friend.

5. The “This Old Thing?” Conversation

Women are bad at taking compliments, a phenomenon comedian Amy Schumer takes to hilarious (and pretty intense) lengths in this sketch. Chances are, if it makes you laugh it’s because you know exactly what she’s getting at. Praise a female friend’s dress and she’ll say, as one of the characters did, “I paid like two dollars for it. It’s probably made of old Burger King crowns.” Buck the system! By which I mean, instead of protesting with a, “What do you mean I look cute? I look like a cow!”, hear what the person is telling you, acknowledge that she might even be telling the truth and say what the last woman in the skit does. (Hint: In French, it’s pronounced merci.)

Amy Shearn is the author of The Mermaid of Brooklyn and How Far Is the Ocean from Here.

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